Oppression doesn’t benefit oppressors.
If oppression benefits oppressors, quit what you’re doing right now and go out and seek power over others. Because it will make your life better, because it will benefit you.
If you protest “But I don’t want that”, then explain why. If you say that you need to feel morally okay and could not live with yourself as a person deliberately seeking opportunities to oppress, then “feeling morally okay” has to be factored into “beneficial” and again I say that if this is how you feel, oppression WOULD NOT BENEFIT you. If you say you value egalitarian human connections far more than power over other people, then that evaluation also has to be factored into “beneficial” and again you don’t benefit from oppression. Benefit means “having it better than”. And the comparision is “than if you weren’t oppressing”. Not “than if someone else were oppressing you instead”.
If you say “well fine and good for those who CAN but goddammit I am marginalized in THIS way and/or THIS way and there’s no way I can seize that kind of power”, hi there and sorry about your situation, but you’re basically saying that IF you could oppress successfully you WOULD and you’re only complaining that you CAN’T? So if you’d had the fortune to be born male, cisgender, able-bodied, English-speaking, white, wealthy, and otherwise privileged, damn right you’d have your oppressor jackboots on the throats of those below you? If not, see the paragraph immediately above this one.
If you say “Yeah but THEY, the ones REALLY with all those entitled powers and privileges, they DO ENJOY their status and they really ARE oppressive”, yeah I notice that too. Please keep in mind that the powers at their disposal include a lot of things but don’t tend to include the power to dismantle the entire system of privilege and power. The most they can do, if that’s what they want most in life, is to step down. Some do. Then they’re no longer the folks you’re pointing fingers at. Some try to strike a middle ground continuing to be wealthy and otherwise encsonced people, but behaving as philanthropists, giving their assets to worthwhile causes, etc. But then they are privileging their own judgment about what is and what is not deserving of funding. They’re still privileged.
It’s a SYSTEM not a batch of evil culprits. I’m sorry if you really relish the idea of someone to hate, someone to blame, for inequality and oppression. Get over it. Go play Monopoly™ with your friends. See if the people who try hardest to refrain from acting like capitalist landlords win the game. See if the people who win the game were behaving particularly like capitalist landlords or just a bit more so than those who lost. Watch how the rules of the game itself insure that no matter who does what the game will be won by capitalist landlords.
Our social systems – patriarchy, racism, capitalism, et. al. – are games like that. There are no culprits. No one is “getting away with” them. They may even have had temporary evolutionary purposes. To move beyond them we really need to believe that a different system can offer EVERYONE – even those most advantaged by the existing systems, those most invested (therefore) in the existing systems – a better deal. A better game, one that still offers efficiency, reliability, stability, and so on. But more fair.