Thanks for the kind words, y’all!
StarvingButStrong, this is something I mentioned in the first draft of the report, but got edited out for including too much detail - for something to be forbidden as Sabbath work, it must have a permanent effect, or be done in a manner which could, potentially, have a permanent effect. Shoelace-tying is a perfect example - most clothing knots, zippers, or snaps do not fall under that category (in the case of the “tying” category, the general guideline is if it can be undone with one hand it’s not a permanent-style knot). But careful - do not double-knot your shoes! A bow over a knot is OK (single bows can be undone by simple pulling, and then there’s just one knot, which will come loose easily), but not more than that.
DrDeth, Shabbos goyim can violate Rabbinic prohibitions on a Jew’s behalf, but not Biblical ones. Asking a non-Jew to violate Sabbath is itself a Rabbinic prohibition, and generally, for limited purposes (e.g., performace of a commandment, or relieving significant discomfort), acts that are “doubly separated” from Biblical prohibition are permitted.
Fear Itself, when duly-ordained Rabbinical courts existed, the penalty for flagrant, intentional violation was stoning; mistaken violators needed to offer an atonement sacrifice (when the Holy Temple stood). Nowadays, as Dex said, it’s between man and G-d, though if one is particularly flagrant and unrepentant about it, he might find himself ostracized by the Orthodox community - even, sometimes, to the point of his corpse being buried separately from the properly-observant.
Eva Luna, those actually might be options - few months ago, my son injured his ankle on Friday afternoon, and my Rabbi said that if I wasn’t out of the hospital before Sabbath commenced, I could have a taxi bring us home, including giving him money (which I in fact did). Nonetheless, I don’t know that for attending a Bar Mitzvah a Rabbi would give similar advice.