TokyoPlayer, I’m so sorry. I’m another person who knew early on that I didn’t want children. I wish there were some way to trade kid options to someone like you who really wants children. You could have had all mine.
Best wishes to you both.
Tokyo, my heart goes out to you, your wife and Mi-chan. Having been through similar circumstances, I can only tell you that I can appreciate your pain and hurt. I am so sorry that you had to go through this pain again. No one should ever have to go through this.
You’re eloquent words speak volumes beyond what we see and hear. You have a beautiful soul and you are the perfect companion for your wife. In the days, weeks and months to come you will hold each other a little closer, lean on each other a little more and become a stronger union. The scars don’t go away although the pain will lessen.
On the anniversary of the birthday of my daughter, Erin, who only made it to 18 weeks, I gave my wife a card. I wanted her to know that I will always remember all of our children, both the ones who stayed and the ones who couldn’t. Here is what I wrote:
Your children will always be loved by you and your wife and all of you will be in our thoughts and prayers.
I’m sorry for you loss, TokyoPlayer. 
I, too, was (and am) keeping good wishes for you and your family.
I am so very sorry.
I was thinking about and praying for your family.
I still am, but now for a different reason.
You will thrive, I’m sure of it. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, but am so very glad so see that the bond between you and your wife is strong enough to help you both get through the difficult time. I can only hope, if such a thing is waiting for me in my future, that I can handle it with even half the strength that you two have shown.
So sorry for your loss, Tokyo.
Aw, how very sad. Sorry for your renewed loss, Tokyo.
So sorry for your loss, TokyoPlayer, and thank you for sharing your eloquent goodbye to sweet Mi Chan. Your words, though composed in sadness, are so achingly beautiful, and give voice to the unspeakable emotions. You have such an immense heart, full of the best kind of love.
May that heart keep strength through this, the love between you and your beloved increase, and carry you on past this sad time.
I am so sorry to hear of this. My thoughts with you. Such sorrow.
I’ll add my prayers again.
More prayers and good thoughts for you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Thanks everyone for your kind words of support. We’re doing well. The first day was tough, but this isn’t the same as with Ian.
We’ve decided to try again as soon as the doctor says it’s OK. We’ll be parents yet! 
It’s great to have a venue where I can express my thoughts and have people support us. It made such a difference during our experience with Ian, when the feeling were so deep, and it was so, so hard.
The act of putting words down in print was therapeutic and having people read my words and comment touched me beyond words.
TokyoWife sends her thanks.
Strength and peace to you and yours.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family TokoyoPlayer. If I could sweep away your sorrow, and carry it off on my own shoulders I would. I think though, that you will grow stronger, and be able to savor joy all the more one day. For now, take it easy, drink some water and try to find small things to soothe you for a time. Don’t give up hope, either of you. I’ll hope for you, for now as hard as I can.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your wife.
I am so sorry for your loss. There just aren’t words…
Your courage is so inspiring and your grace is so evident.
I can surf to GD and the Pit and see all of the things that humanity is getting wrong, see pettiness and failure and frustration.
The words that you put up here, the fact of the profound love that you and TokyoWife share, are the argument for why any wanted child is born.
I wish for you a future of joyful parenthood.
And if I manage to get to Tokyo this summer, allow me to buy you and TokyoWife a couple of drinks.
Hopefully, TokyoWife won’t be allowed to take you up on that offer. 