What a schmuck. Sorry, I know you really liked him…
While the situation is completely unfunny, this made me think of one of my favorite Mystery Science Theater quotes (said in a snooty British accent):
“Don’t make me go over there and unseal a tin of whoop-ass.”
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I start back to work tomorrow and find out about the New Project I’ve been put on. I didn’t get an official university contract for Archivin’ Work this semester, but they got a churchy grant that they’ve rehired me under. So I get to work with church records and stuff. Should be interesting.
I sign off with a dose of WTF, Mate? For the Fellas
I guess I’ve ben busy if I hopped on last night to last week’s MMP and started at my first unread post and it said “happy Friday”! And I’m still busy - we’re about to go to the babysitter’s house to get started on movng the littlest Bean into daycare so I can go back t work. Ugh. I am not looking forward to this. Today we are just going to introduce ourselves and look around.
I’ll be back to check everyone out later ad shae my nice realization I just had in another thread!
When I took Toy Roommate to work this morning, I noticed an awful lot of sirens and flashing lights rushing down the roads. I just found out what happened:
I really hope that everyone there is okay, but the sight of a cement truck tipped over made me giggle like a fiend. I am the same person who watched the Mythbusters explode a cement truck into its component molecules seventeen times in a row, frame-by-frame.
{{{Haze}}} Poor baby–I’m so sorry you’re hurting right now, but I have to say I totally agree with Rigs. LoserGuy sounds like a total pussy and you have a bigger, brassier set of balls on you than he’s ever going to grow. Which would be fine if you were the kind of girl who WANTS to wear the balls in the house, but I don’t think you are. You just need a guy with bigger balls than you who can be a match for you, and wussy little LoserBoy is highly unlikely ever to be that person. What a spineless little jellyfish! You’d end up so contemptuous of him that you’d torture him just to watch him squirm and then you’d hate yourself because you’re not really a big old meanie. Forget him and his worthless equivocations, bad cess to him! Keep busy, keep working, keep going out and keep working on getting back to the States however you can–you’re a determined young woman and I know you have it in you. Sure, it’d be nice if things were all easy peasy, but it seldom works out that way and when it does it has a way of collapsing at the worst time and in the worst way possible. Build it strong with your own hands and you know you can count on it…
So, with all that in mind, I say you take Rigs up on her offer, and since I’m sure she’s gonna want one of these suckers as soon as she sees it in action I bet she can put a world of scare into LoserBoy even with one elbow out of commission!
I’m sending many hugs, encouragements and “poor baby’s” to you via thought beam. You’ll probably get them while you’re asleep due to the time zone difference, but maybe they’ll give you good dreams and help you wake up in a better frame of mind.
Man, it definitely is a case of the doldrums for the MMP recently, whoa! Feel bettah, everbodies!
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First, an MMP at 4 PM (God’s time)?! These are gonna start being on Saturday before long!
Anastaseon, (do you have a nickname? I’m behind!), do you have a website? I enjoy soap!
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Bobbio, you and your fun adventures! Makes me want to go drive an ambulance so that I can ignore speed limits lol.
Right now I’m putting off getting ready for work. I got a call offering me an interview for a pharmacy tech position at UAMS today (the med/pharmacy/etc. school and adjoining hospital), but then after some discussion of scheduling she realized she had never checked my availability and I wouldn’t be able to fill the position anyway. ::sigh::
Off to shower now!
Spaz, that would make for a mighty fine afternoon of butt-picking for any of the fire crews dispatched to that scene…
Did I kill the thread? 
{{{{{Haze}}}}}} What everybody else said. I’m sorry.
I survived. The verdict? Two small cavities, which are going to wait until I have insurance, which won’t be for a couple of months. The tooth I’m worried about definitely bears watching; it’s going to need either a root canal and a new crown or to just come out at some point. Given my lack of thousands of dollars for a root canal, my choice there is pretty limited. At least it’s the farthest back molar, so I won’t have a gap anywhere and totally wreck all the orthodonture I had twenty years ago! Hopefully that will wait until I have insurance as well. Ye gods, dental care got expensive somewhere along the line! It’s going to be a bit upwards of $400 for two fillings! But everybody in the office was wonderful and awesome and I think it’s worth the money.
And why I’m going on about that so much I don’t know.
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My imagination is always a lot more fun than my reality! :o :smack:
Although to be honest I wasn’t imagining anything too wild – the “ped” part sort of gave the general meaning away… 
What she said.
Having reiterated that, I would like to say that I think we’ve all ganging up on That Guy for somewhat the wrong reason… It’s not exactly uncommon when a spouse stays in a bad relationship – or one where love has left the building for good, a long time ago – for… a myriad of reasons. Sometimes for decades. This doesn’t make him more of a wuss than many others, or a bad person, in and of itself.
What does make him despicable is his treatment of both women he was involved with – cheating on his partner, and **especially **lying to **Haze **that “yeah, I am going to break up with her. RSN!! In fact I did!!!” (yeah, right, we can all see that now :rolleyes: ) and stringing her along like he did.
If you’re in what is supposed to be in a exclusive relationship, and don’t have the balls to tell your partner it’s over… suffer the consequences! I suppose some cyber-silliness wouldn’t hurt too bad. Heck, even visiting a street practitioner, while not exactly a paragon of virtue, wouldn’t make all that many of us drop their jaws to the floor – but an actual, IRL, physical relationship with another woman is beyond the pale, IMO. And trying to convince **Haze **(the other woman) that she would “really soon now” be the first (when he must know it isn’t happening) – that takes the cake. This is what makes him a cad in my book, much more than his inability to break up with VH.
OK, this is getting long and disjointed and rambling, but I hope you understand the distinction I’m getting at.
Aw, haze. He’s an idiot. Yeah, it hurts now, and yeah, it may make it more difficult to get back to the U.S. But in the long run, it really is better to find out now than sometime down the road when you’re married. Or when you’re attempting to get married and get back to the U.S. and he’s stringing you along as you’re filling out the paperwork and it turns out he’s still living with VH and she thinks they’re getting married.
Just remember you’re beautiful, you’re smart, and you’re going to find someone way better than him who’ll treat you the way you should be treated.
Blurf.
Why am I so sleepy? I got a fully 8.5 hrs last night, and it’s not like it’s a yucky day outside or anything (actually, it’s downright gorgeous - bright, sunny, not too hot… WTF am I doing indoors?).
{{Haze}} Sounds to me like That Guy is doing one of two things… he’s either avoiding The Talk with her because he’s afraid of the messiness it will involve, or he’s playing it safe and stringing along his (ex?)GF in case things don’t work out between the two of you now that you’re in Korea. Neither reflects well on his potential as the right guy for you.
If anyone needs me, I’ll be napping under my desk again. Zzzzzzzz.
Aw damn, Haze; I’m so sorry.
I know it hurts right now, and it’s probably the last thing you want to read (or hear), but you deserve so much more than he’s ever capable of being.
Today is a nothing is going right at work day. ::Huge sigh of frustration::
I’m sorry, too, Haze. I hope these virtual hugs are helping, at least a tiny bit.
I found out something sad today. My co-worker (who has been going on and on about his baby girl) and his wife, lost the baby. She was about five or six months pregnant! I feel so bad. 
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Haven’t really caught up…
Last week and this one, I’m off work; last week I stayed in Scotland (spent three days on a sort of micro-road-trip), this week I’m at Mom’s. Next week, work is in Bilbao instead of Glasgow. So I’m not coming here much.
Will catch up later, promise, but for now, Nooner I’m glad your vacation went well, {{{{{{Haze}}}}}, other hugs yays and boos as needed please.
Awwwwwww… Rebo that’s so sad!
{{{Haze}}} what everybody else said. I can’t think of anything to add to it.
donkeybear backatcha.
Spaz I’d really like to know how many fools actually order stuff like that. 
kai … laptop vibes …
Everybody else… well, I don’t remember but I’m all for/against it as the case maybe.
I brought work home to do the rest of today and of course for my usual Wednesday telecommute. However, I made the decision to mow instead. It’s not too hot out, well, for around here, and I keep hearin’ rain, rain, rain the rest of the week so I decided to go ahead and mow. Now I’s tahred!
Course that didn’t help the sinuses a whole lot but ya gotta do what ya gotta do sometimes.
Dindin tonight will be frozen lasagna (cooked, of course) sallit and bread. All of which requires minimal prep on my part.
Progress-
young daughter made a dent in cleaning her room! Cleaning her room always paralyzed her- she just couldn’t do it alone.
So we worked on it today and she did a whole lot on her own-- we may have made a break through here!
Sad story about co-worker Rebo.
Lunch- I get what you’re saying- he shouldn’t be pretending he’s available when he’s not. If, for whatever reason he’s staying in this relationship, he needs to be honest with Haze and not play her.
weird–it wouldn’t let me post.
Huh? These are grad students(well, near enough to still count as)–all single. That Guy is not married. He asked Hazel to marry him–what is he doing with Victorian Lady or Whatever Her Name Is? Marriage is a whole nother ball game, IMO.
This adds to his despicability.
But, he is still living (and for all we know intimate with) VH. Living together IS intimate. If they had only been roomies all along, I’d have no problem with them living together still–but then VH and Haze would have sussed each other out etc. Long distance relations are very hard (been there, done that) and people slip up. The consequences of that are the sole business of the LD couple, IMO. But this is different. This is the same old, same old, after swearing it wouldn’t be like this etc. I don’t care if he is having Victorian sex-it’s the emotional betrayal; the refusal to declare to the world that WE ARE TOGETHER that sticks in my craw. Haze was going to go against her parents wished and her cultural mores for TG. And this is how he treats her love? Fuck him sideways with a rusty shovel.
Color me clueless, then, because it sounds to me like you’re saying that it’s ok for Haze to be “out of sight, out of mind” with TG. And that is just not right. I was over here thinking he was scraping pennies together to go see her in Korea. Chance is a fine thing. :dubious: I’m very angry for Hazel right now, No one, not angry at you.
I agree with Mahna, which is why I brought up the whole “man up” thing: TG needed to do the right thing months ago. It is not fair to either woman (or man, if this were the opposite situation) to string one along because you lack the spine to be off with the old love before you’re on with the new. It’s weasely and immature and maddening. TG lost a really, really good thing and a great person. And all for the lack of resolution and courage.
I would not like to be in a relationship knowing that my guy let his lease run out with his EX GF because he couldn’t face the music. Blech.
This is going to get long and rambly.
I swear, I am going to strangle Complicated Roommate in his sleep one day. I went down to campus after a discussion with Negative Lady to see if I could talk to someone to get some progress made. I asked CR if he wanted to get some lunch. He said sure. I mentioned I was going to campus. He said “call first.” I said no, I’d rather just go down there. He starts going on about how I’m “afraid of the phone.” I don’t like talking on the phone, right, but it’s my decision to make if I’m going to take the time to drive down to campus and talk to someone in person about my problems down there. A couple of years ago I would have been too afraid to do even that. It blows up into a huge fight and I call down to campus. The secretary says that both directors are in today. CR and I go get some lunch. We go down to campus. Guess what…the secretary didn’t mention that there were meetings all afternoon. CR insists that we go by the financial aid office, even after I told him that it’s the first week of classes, the line is going to be out the door until September. So we had to walk all the way down there so he could go in the door and see for himself how long the line was. Then on the way back he starts going on about what a waste of time it was to go to campus. “Excuse me,” I said, “It was my time to waste. I told you where I was going, you could have said no.” But no, he has to go on and on about how I’m making it a big deal and I need to grow up and blah blah blah.
This is why we’re no longer together. I am sick to death of his controlling attitude and then his denials that he was being a controlling asshole. I’m not the one who’s walked out on two jobs in the last two months. Get your own shit together before taking it out on me.
There. Now I feel better.