I can’t help but feel sorry for the guy on some level, especially now that it’s affecting me, also. This all starts back his freshman year when he has a gay roommate, who is very closeted (not very successfully). AG asks roommate out, roommate turns him down, and goes and tells the dean of students about what happened. The dean of students maked AG get a single room so that he can’t corrupt anyone else.
That has continued to this day, where he is living in an on-campus apartment by himself.
The dean of students monitors his facebook/xanga/myspace, and recently made him delete all of his posts on the last two, and change his sexual preference and his “in a relationship with” on facebook, because those things reflect poorly on the school.
The thing that bothers me the most (and affects me) is that he caught wind of our plans to rent a house together starting this summer (actually, in less than a week.) He has disallowed **AG **from living there, along with our other (female) roommate that attends that same university. He is now forcing AG to live on-campus. Since AG has such short notice, the only residence available is an efficiency a couple of blocks away. This means that within the next week, I have to find two more roommates, move my stuff into the house, and move AG’s stuff into his apartment. If only this were a public state school, I could see how parts of this would be illegal, but I think that they can get around it since it’s a private school.
No real purpose to posting this, other than to vent. Thanks.
How old is this guy? I have little sympathy for someone over 18 who lets others control them to this extent. AG needs to buck and and live his own life. Letting a dean tell you what to do is absurd. Must he attend this particular school? Is he afraid his parents won’t pay for a different college? In any case it’s debasing and he’d be better off entering the workforce and living his life on his own terms than suffering the humiliation he’s going through now.
It’s a scholarship issue, because neither he nor his family has the money to pay for it. This is his last semester, so he’s decided just to buckle down and get through it. Also, he really wants to teach, and that’s apparently hard to do without a degree.
Can he write? As soon as he has his degree irrevocably in hand, he might want to consider a tell-all project about his formative years under the oppressive regime of the college. Then again, I hear that it can be difficult to teach, in many areas of the country, as an uncloseted gay man. Publishing a tell-all counts as a very public outing of oneself.
Oops. Left the “l” out of “public” on the first try. That’s not good.
Well, that would be wonderful, but he’s very afraid to be an out teacher. He believes what he has been told (by his conservative Baptist teachers) that no parent would ever want their kids to be taught… by a homosexual, regardless of the fact that there are at least 3 out teachers at my university.
You know what reflects poorly on the school? The fact that they’re terribly bigoted. It’s a good thing AG only has a short while left there. Hopefully, even as a teacher, he’ll be able to start living his life free of this sort of oppressive crap.
Did he not know the University was Conservative and Baptist when he applied there? Was it the only place in the country that would give him a scholarship?
As an adult shouldn’t he have been actively against such an institution, rather than affirming it by joining it. Surely he knew he was gay before applying to the university.
What the university is doing is dispicable, but being private they are unfortunately allowed to be dispicable. How did this guy end up joining such a dispicable organisation?
The Dean is an asshole but he can be if he wants to is what this amounts to. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this cb. Maybe it’s worth it to AG to “get through it” and graduate from this school, but I’d sure have my doubts if I were him. Hell, I went to a small private religiously affiliated college for undergrad but they didn’t act anything like this. Maybe that’s a Methodist (where I went) vs Baptist thing. I hope everything works out to the best for the both of you.
I assume he knew that they were conservative and Baptist, but he’s been Baptist his entire life and never had any problems with it. The school has an active anti-homosexual policy, but that’s not advertised anywhere. Only university in the whole country? Maybe not, but this school (apparently) has a reputation for having a wonderful music program.
Damn unlucky for him. I hope he or someone can expose this bias in the school so that future students can avoid it, and or publicity can embarass the school into a better policy.