IIRC, they included transfer case fluid replacement, front and rear differential, transmission flush, coolant flush…
These are all legitimate maintenance services that are recommended by vehicle manufacturers.
…and a host of other things…
This isn’t very helpful when asking for this type of advice. Some of those things may be legitimate, some may not (plenty of places recommend services that are not called for). If you want an accurate assessment, list the exact items suggested, and provide the year, make, model, and engine size (not how many cylinders - the specific size in liters or cubic inches) of the vehicle.
Now I have never had any of these done on any vehicles I’ve ever owned, nor do I know of any friend that has.
Sounds like you and your friends forgo normal scheduled maintenance. I’m not particulary surprised about not having a differential fluid service, but never a coolant flush? Never a (automatic) transmission service? Strikes me as mighty odd to have never done those.
1) How important/necessary are these “recommendations”?
Important enough that the vehicle manufacturer lists them on their official maintenance schedule. Have you never referred to those schedules?
2) Are there some that are a)absolutely necessary, b) should be done, or c) good idea?
Sure, some could be considered more important than others. Engine oil and automatic transmission fluid break down, and the consequences of their failure tend to be repair bills in the thousands of dollars. Engine coolant breaks down, and the consequences of the resultant corrosion can be in the hundreds of dollars. Differential oil seldom causes a problem, with many vehicles going well over 100,000 miles without trouble.
3) Are any simply bad ideas, or otherwise worthless?
As far as factory-recommended maintenance, generally not. If it’s dealer-recommened or shop-recommended, sometimes yes.
4) Lastly and a harder question…are there any “studies” (if they exist I’m sure they’d be done by fleet managers) that identify the “optimum” maintenance level for a vehicle? IOW, what level of maintenance should I be doing if I wanted to run a vehicle for 250,000 miles?
I’m sure there are, though I don’t have the info on them. What I do have is 35 years of field experience servicing and repairing vehicles, and I have observed plenty of expensive repairs that could have been avoided or significantly delayed if proper maintnenance had been done. I would say if you want that kind of longevity, follow the manufacturer’s recommendations and maybe a few addtitional things recommended by a competent, honorable shop.
It’s a virtual certainty that the service vehicles you have bought from working fleets had the recommended maintenance done.