I’m helping somebody recover from joint replacement surgery and want to be better informed and more capable regarding her pain management and some other issues. I think she may be a somewhat difficult case because she is a heavy drinker (four times the 2014 CDC limits for “heavy drinker”) and has been so for decades. She’s 70.
I’ve never known her, for 36 years, to go a day without drinking, except when she was on opioid treatment (hospitalized or at home after surgery). Her usual pattern is to start drinking mid afternoon, and she’s famous for being irritable or angry in the hours leading up to starting drinking. She very rarely gets drunk enough to fall down, or throw up, but it happens.
I was with her throughout surgical consults and hospital intake (she wants me there as she has difficulty understanding everything going on). They did ask about drinking, in what I think is a typical way, and she said something ordinary like “a couple glasses of wine in the evening”, but then they didn’t let it go, they kept asking more probing questions, specific in ways I’ve never heard before and didn’t understand. She gave minimally interesting answers. I wondered if they were keying off of some clue unknown to me. She does have slightly yellow eyes, which I think might suggest liver damage, but I don’t know if they were paying attention to that. Of course, they were looking at blood work, about which I know nothing.
This must be a pretty common issue, right? Many millions of people drink too much, and possibly have addiction to it, right? Especially in the older age groups that also get hospitalized more. I have a friend whose mother was in this category and the hospital did various special things to manage this — not giving her alcohol, but doing other medication for it. I’m trying to interpret. Are opioids interchangeable with alcohol? I mean, if somebody would have physical problems when alcohol is withheld, do opioids cancel that?
She’s 9 days post-operative and her pain pill usage is going up, not down, though she’s using the new joint more and demonstrating much improved physical capability. Her prescription (oxycodone 5 mg) is about to run out, though she has a few pills saved from an earlier hospitalization. She’s not drinking while taking these pills. Her mood is always quite variable and she gets pretty angry, and this seems worse during this whole process. She next sees her physical therapist and her surgeon in 2 days and 3 days respectively.
I have to take care of her; she’s relying on it. I can do as little as just let things unfold as I continue to care for her, or I can ask questions. I’m not the patient so I don’t have official standing for much, though I could refuse to do things for her that I thought were bad for her. I’m also trying to deal with her mood swings and figure out how to get on with my own life (for example I have to start physical therapy for my own recent surgery in a couple days and will have to plan on leaving the house more). And, just out of curiosity, I wonder why they questioned her so hard about the subject and just wouldn’t let it go (nobody has ever done that to me).
Any advice to share? Tips? Insights?
Since there are some factual questions here, but also some opportunity for speculation, with uncertainty I put this in IMHO.
Thanks!!