I’m not sure what it is, but otherwise rational, open minded people seem to become utterly inept socially when they are exposed to mixed people. They will do and say things that would be considered impolite or stupid around someone who is mono-racial, but it’s okay when it is a multi-ethnic person.
For example, you would never hear that your asian friend, is going to marry another asian person, and then say “OH MY GOD, YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO JUST BE SO GOOD AT MATH!” but even on these boards I constantly hear people say that multiracial children are all beautiful/multiracial people are all “hot”. :rolleyes: As a multiracial person who is not attractive by and large, it’s like an EXTRA jab in the ribs, imagine how ugly I’d be if I WASN’T mixed. :rolleyes:
Another really annoying thing people do, is come up to me and say “WHAT ARE YOU??” (This is including PERFECT STRANGERS ON THE STREET…it’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!) I have met enough of these idiots to know exactly what they mean by repetition, but I wouldn’t say my mixed race is in the top 3 things I identify as… this is offensive to me because they assume that to me, my race is my most important trait. Usually I respond to these people by sharing with them my religious faith, because it’s the first thing that I identify as.
Yet another obnoxious behavior people do is try to guess whether my mother or father is the black or white one. MOST of the time they are wrong, though I personally notice a LOT more black men with white women than vice versa, so it’s forgivable for being wrong-BUT, the very question itself is stupid. What does it matter? Secondly, it seems like these simpletons are trying to use some pseudo-scientific system they made up that people take more after their mother/after their father’s race looks wise, which is not true, and only someone fairly stupid would think so.
BTW, when I am polite enough not to go tell you to walk off a bridge, and actually tell you my ethnic background (I know I look ambiguous), 99% of the time these jackasses follow up with “You don’t look it.” GEE mister, here I was thinking I looked like Casper the friendly ghost or Eddie Murphy, you’ve totally blown my mind!
So in case you are doing any of the above, or WOULD do any of the above, please stop and think first, before you make yourself look like an insensitive idiot to the person you are talking to.
If you REALLY are curious, and I am sometimes too, what I will do is a) get to know someone first, and b) say, “excuse me but I’m just curious, what kind of ethnic background do you have?” People try to dance around the issue and ask “Where are your parents from?” When I reply “Chicago” they go “YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN!” :mad: