So do you have two contrasting, opposite people in your life that you think if they meet they would just have a matter/anti-matter reaction and blown the whole place to bits?
At my previous workplace (which I have just left one day ago), my supervisor is a PhD who always use experience from his PhD days as rationale or justification for his decisions. At times he brag about it, and would tell stories about his ‘exploits’. It gets kind of grating at times since we are in a computer science lab, and the whole lab are complaining that he is distracting them from working. (behind his back, alas).
While I was clearing leave, another interesting character entered the picture. He’s an intern, and a hotshot one at that. He acted as if he’s entitled to everything and said straight to the team lead on day one, “I don’t care whether you have a PhD or a Masters; unless you have worked in the industry for 5 years or more, you are nothing to me”. From an intern. Granted, he’s 36 years old and may have real life experience, I am wondering what he is compensating for.
At any rate, those are two completely opposites (at least when it come to emphasis on academical credentials). It’s just too bad both of them didn’t meet; the intern was transferred to another project because the team felt he was an insufferable fool. If they did meet I expect the whole university to be blown apart. Or there would be an argument of the life-time.
i am a magnet for “opposites.”
Best as i can, trying to yield whenever possible, count to ten (a lot), ask questions for clarification and try to put myself in the other’s shoes.
i used to be an “exploder” but it just did not help me to achieve my goals.
I had a ‘friend’ who was actually the son of my Mother’s friend. He was very weird his whole life and as he became an adult he became a certain kind of weird that caused me to never want to have anything to do with him.
Anyway, before that he would occasionally bump into one of my true friends who was ‘normal’ except that he liked militaria (guns, equipment, etc.) and was a little bit racist.
‘friend’ :effeminate, weedy, could not throw a ball, likes raves and drugs.
good friend: Butch, non smoker, hardly ever drinks, likes guns and military stuff.
When they met it was deeply embarrasing to be associated with the ‘friend’.
A year and a half ago, these two people I know were brought together (to meet, not on a blind date or the like) for the first time so that their mutual friends could enjoy the ensuing fireworks and explosive behavior on both of their parts. It was widely accepted among their mutual friends (of which there were several) that they’d tear each other’s hair out and call each other names, that it would be titanic and they’d fight to the death - on politics, religion, personal beliefs, and so on. One of these people, in a fit of good nature, jokingly agreed (on the way to the party at which they’d meet) that she’d have sex with the other person so that he’d mellow out.
So yeah, we’re happily together, will be engaged in a year(ish). And we’re actually not so different at all 