I have heroes with caveats - there are people I look up to, but I remember that they are humans with flaws. The flaws, even serious ones, don’t necessarily cancel out the good traits that make them my heroes. But it’s important to me not to elevate these people beyond mere humans.
So here is my list of heroes, with some of their flaws.
Ted Williams
Best hitter who ever played baseball, and he brought the same intellect, drive and precision to everything that was important to him (expert fisherman, Marine Corps jet pilot).
He was one of the earliest celebrities involved with the Jimmy Fund, and spent a lot of time visiting sick kids in the hospital. However, he wouldn’t allow the press to publicize these visits, which he enforced by promising to stop doing it and blame the first writer who penned an article about it. None of them dared.
The Red Sox were the last team to integrate. They got their first black player (Pumpsie Green) in the late 50s, by which time Williams was the old man of the team. Williams immediately made Green his warmup partner because he wanted everyone to see Green playing catch with him and being accepted. You could say Williams didn’t risk much by doing that, but he didn’t have to either.
His flaws… Williams was a very prickly individual and I’m not sure I would have liked him personally. He treated many people close to him with indifference, and his marriages were disastrous. His son turned out to be a real piece of work. Also a terrible baseball manager because he was unable to understand that mere mortals didn’t have his ability and insights.
Gandhi
One of the bravest individuals in history. He subjected himself to physical harm for his principles, and held himself to very high standards of behavior when it came to them. Read about how he insisted on receiving no outside help during the Great Salt March.
He took on the British Empire and won. At a time when colonization was normal. A half naked guy in India beat the British. He embarrassed them into abandoning their colony by showing the world their brutal behavior. Absolutely incredible. Without him, we might not have had Martin Luther King.
His flaws… Gandhi may have done some weird stuff with girls to prove to himself that he was fully in control of his desires. Also had a bad relationship with his sons. Like many people who do important things, this seems to have been at the cost of his relationships to people close to him.
Neil Armstrong
Everyone knows he was the first person to walk on the moon. Pfff. Look at his earlier career, the stuff he did that made him qualified to be in that position. Naval aviator (and some good stories there), test pilot, Gemini astronaut. He commanded Gemini 8 and was the first person to conduct a docking of a manned spacecraft. Then there was a problem with one of the Gemini’s thrusters which sent them tumbling. He and his partner, Dave Scott (who also went to the moon) used their test pilot backgrounds to work through the problem, eliminating causes until they figured out what to do. All while spinning uncontrollably in space, with no ground contact. I’ve read Armstrong’s report - it’s written in heavy engineering language, but when you realize what they did it’s nearly unbelievable. I fly airplanes for a living, and I can’t imagine being able to work that logically under that kind of pressure. There are a lot of incidents in Armstrong’s life like that one. He was on Apollo 11 for a reason.
Flaws… Armstrong gets a lot of flack for being standoffish. I don’t think that’s quite fair. He was certainly a quiet person who seemed hard to know. But he seemed to get along well with his sons later in life.