My old man use to say that a guy who’ll use the toilet without closing the door… and warned my sister that if a guy will number 2 while you’re in their… then their’s a great possiblity that he spents some time in the joint… (hooskow…big house… whatever the kids are calling it today)
As for me and my honey… nope… noo… nahh I’m probably more squeamish about it than she is…
Maybe, maybe not. Sometimes shit (heh) befalls you before you plan on it or are prepared to deal with it. And often, you don’t have the luxury of hiring someone else to deal with it. Just saying.
Never. If I only had one bathroom, I’d use a bush outside before I’d use the bathroom if my husband was in there.
Romance would never survive for me otherwise.
Yeah, because those are examples of seeing someone at maybe not their best, and still loving them. When my kids were getting toilet trained I spent a lot of time in the bathroom with them. “It’s packing its bags. It’s getting ready …”
I didn’t mean the partner pooping all over the bed. I see hiring someone for that, at least part of the time. I meant more that at 80 that mystery that seems to lead to romance for some people is way gone. But I hope that the romance isn’t. Unless you’re like the guy in the Tom Lehrer song, that is.
Never lived in a city, eh?
I personally have no problems doing that. My husband is a different story…
He doesn’t mind too much if I go while he is in there, unless it’s to poop, then he usually makes a face and leaves. If I go in to the bathroom while HE is in their, he always tells me to leave. He doesn’t like anyone in there while he is on the toliet. No exceptions. I myself would be comfortable leaving the doors open and anyone walking in.
Right and you don’t think I did that too? And changed diapers? And was vomited on. And changed my dad’s diapers before he died? Of course I (and probably lots of others in this thread, too) am able and willing to do those things. I just find it funny that you can’t imagine that someone who is generally private and would rather not go to the bathroom in front of a spouse would also have no problem tending to their loved ones. It’s not that hard to compartmentalize things, if need be.
Willingness to do care-taking, even when unpleasant, is a whole different game than articulating what your preferences would be normal, day to day conditions.
I promise that if my husband came in and peed while I was brushing my teeth, I would still love him. But I’d really rather he didn’t because I find it gross. And if he’s incontinent at 80 and I can tend to him, I will do so lovingly, even if I think it’s still gross.
Not a lot, but then I’d use a gas station. 
Not partners but housemates: bathroom time is private time save when you absolutely need something and someone is in the shower. Exceptions are made for urgent needs when the other bathroom is full.
This - one bathroom, 6 people in the house while I was growing up. That said, it would need to be urgent - I’m not going to walk in from a vague need to pee, but an urgent need is just that.
That said, we did learn in my household to do a general question before showers of “hey, I’m going to take a shower - does anyone need to go before I get in there?”. Didn’t eliminate (heh) all interruptions, but they were far reduced.
This kind of amazes me. It’s one thing if you don’t have issues with it, but since you know that your husband obviously does, does it not bother you to actively offend the person you want to find you sexually appealing?