I’m not sure I consider it “discrimination” if I’m not materially disadvantaged by the attitudes other people express, but here are my stories…
When I was in college, I was hired by an environmental consulting firm to take groundwater samples. This required me to drive around a very large Midwestern state to various gas stations, where I opened up monitoring wells and collected the samples. This was dirty and sometimes difficult work. Oftentimes, the wells would be rusted shut and I would have to bash on the lid with a hammer until it shattered to open the well, or occasionally a well was buried (one time, under a foot of hard-packed dirt and gravel!) and I’d have to dig it out. I’d make my own schedule and sometimes take trips that required me to be out overnight.
The firm I worked for was extremely cool; the engineers and geologists never once treated me differently because I was a woman. But the attitudes I encountered at the job sites were sometimes quite amusing…particularly since I’m a rather tall and sturdy-looking female.
Once, I was trying to cut a Master lock off a monitoring well with bolt cutters (no easy task) because we didn’t have the key. A feeble old man tottered over and asked me if I’d like for him to try to cut it off. Ridiculous! I was an able-bodied twenty-year-old; he looked like he was pushing 90 and probably couldn’t have snapped a twig in half. But he assumed because he was a man, that he was stronger than I was.
Once, I arrived at a gas station to find it was under construction. The foreman of the crew came over to ask me who I was and what I was doing. When I told him, he snatched the map of the monitoring wells out of my hand and sent his men off to go locate and open the wells for me. Because they didn’t offer to collect the samples for me, I assume that the reason was that they didn’t think a “little girl” like me would be any good with maps or digging or stuff like that (as opposed to them having concerns about me being on the job site while they worked).
And I guess I find it extremely stupid that the male lawyers at my firm are always letting me on the elevator first and offering to escort me to the parking garage at night, though I understand why they do this. It does make me want to laugh, though, when fragile, tiny, effete little men half a head shorter than me offer to serve as my escort.
But I’ve never been in a situation where I knew that I wasn’t getting paid as much as a man for the same job, or where I was passed over for good assignments, or anything like that.