1 person at our house. The wife enjoys washing dishes…it’s sort of a yoga thing for her. I am responsible for emptying the rack and putting all the dishes away, however.
Two person job. With a script that must be followed every day:
I say it’s time to clean up the kitchen.
My kid tells me that she does not want to do the dishes.
I explain that they have to be done anyway.
She says she does not enjoy doing the dishes.
Neither do I, I counter, but they have to be done.
She insists that she does not want to do them.
I say just do and get it over with.
She whines and procrastinates.
I yell,
She cries.
She washes,
I dry.
One person. And if I’m the one doing the washing, kindly clear out of the kitchen and let me do it in peace. You know, I thought people only dried dishes on TV, to get two kids out of the parents’ hair at once.
I take it from the comment that the toddler can play by himself “just fine” for a few minutes, the OP is on the two-person side of the argument 
I rinse/wash, my wife puts them in the dishwasher.
The other day we had old friends over for dinner and afterward, I did my usual routine. while the others were having a drinkee. The invitees expressed surprise that I cleaned up the dishes before chucking them in the washer.
I guess most folks just toss things in there, without a pre-rinse or wash.
Well one, but only because I live alone. But when I was dating I enjoyed doing dishes with her. I dunno why. I mean we had already eaten together, but I just liked this time alone with her.
Of course, I didn’t do it right, so I had to be the dryer.
Thanks for all of your replies. For the record, I am on the one-person side of the line. We always wash, dry and put away immediately because, oddly enough, we don’t have a dish drainer. That spot on the counter is immediately to the left of the sink (and is maybe 18" wide), so we make sure the dishes don’t hang out for a long time.
The dishwasher is another story - we load those dishes immediately after meals, so the only things to wash by had are pots, pans, knives, and things that don’t fit. So we’re not talking huge piles of stuff here - it should never take more than 15 minutes tops. My husband tried to suggest the “compromise” that when it’s my turn to do dishes, I can do them alone because that’s how I prefer it; but when it’s his turn, he wants me to help. :dubious: Thankfully, he backed out of that statement once he realized what he was suggesting.
And our toddler son loves to help loading and unloading the dishwasher. In fact, he just helped not 15 minutes ago.
Same in our household. The one person is determined by who didn’t cook. We split the cooking 50-50, not by design but that’s the way it seems to fall out with our schedules. We’ve been doing it this way for 20-odd years. In my earlier marriage it was pretty much the same.
When we do have a high-traffic situation, I have to fight back some of my “right way” prejudices. In my first marriage, the joke (really!) was that my wife’s epitaph would read, “She dried the wettest glass first.”
There are four of us and we all wash dishes. My wife does all the cooking and feels that she does more than her share of the dishes. My son (20 y/o) will happily do the dishes if you can catch him and say “isn’t it your turn to do the dishes ?” and if he doesn’t have something else that he has to get off to. My daughter ( 16 y/o) keeps very good track of the last time she did the dishes and sometimes she and I will negotiate so one of us puts away the dry dishes from the dish drainer and the other washes the dishes. We have an old house and something always needs fixing so sometimes I get distracted on my days off and don’t even notice that there are dirty dishes in the sink. I get in trouble those days.
My wife has instituted the “truck-cupping” rule where if I bring three or more coffee cups in from my truck, it is automatically my turn to do the dishes. I only ever cheated once on the truck-cupping rule and my daughter ended up washing the dishes. The trick is not putting all the coffee cups in one place.
As far as diaper changing, our rule was if you discover it needs changing, you change it.