Pregnant and have a job interview

Does anyone in your current department know already? You’re 4.5 months along. I would expect that you’ve already told some people in your current area.

Do you think that your current supervisor is not going to be asked by the new group about your performance, etc. If you supervisor knows, the new hiring manager is going to know. It will appear more forthright and open if you don’t appear to be hiding it.

If no one at your company knows, are you prepared to lie to your new boss when you announce that you’re 5-6 months preganant, and you just found out?

It’s not unreasonable for your supervisors to know about pregnancies and be able to plan for the maternity leave that will be coming. Why does everyone assume that companies want to fire all pregnant women? It’s a very common occurence and managers deal with it everyday.

Don’t tell. You can pretend to be one of those “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant” women in a few months when the pregnant becomes visible. :slight_smile:

Seriously, though. Even though it’s illegal to discriminate against pregnant women and women with small children, IT HAPPENS EVERY DAY. It’s impossible to prove, and even if it IS proven, the damage is done. Nobody likes a whistle-blower. And anyway, even at 18 weeks and just looking a little plumper than usual, a prospective pregnancy is probably STILL completely on the minds of anyone considering hiring a woman in their childbearing years.

Once you’ve won the job on your own merit (And if you don’t get the job, you won’t have to secretly suspect they just didn’t want someone who was pregnant/on leave/lactating etc for the next year) and disclose the pregnancy before you start the new job.

I administer FMLA and leave policies for a hundred thousand employees, so here’s my professional advice.

Don’t bring it up in the interview, or before hand. Legally your employer cannot consider it for hiring/promotion purposes, so it’s entirely irrelevant. If you tell them, there’s always going to be a question about whether or not it influenced the outcome of their decision.

After you’re offered the job, it should be okay (and it would be professional) to give them as much notice as possible so that they can prepare for your absence. Under FMLA you’re at least required to give them 30 days notice if the absence is foreseeable, which this is - otherwise they can deny your leave.

If you experience any negative consequences such as retaliation for requesting a leave, you could find an employment lawyer or go to the US Dept of Labor website for advice.

Also, not mentioning it to the hiring team before or during the interview is not lying; you don’t have to pretend you “just found out.”

Even from their perspective, they’re better off not knowing because if they don’t know, they can’t be accused of discriminating against you. They might be frustrated when they find out, but legally they are better protected that way.

From an employers perspective, ewwww. Unless you are the most awesome employee that ever was, the situation sucks for everyone involved. You, because you can’t be forthright since it will make a difference (even though it shouldn’t), your new coworkers, because they are going to be stuck with picking up your slack for 12 weeks whichm while often done gladly for a long time coworker, makes them feel screwed with a newbie, and your employer who is going to feel duped. Ultimately, you need to do what is best for you and your family and that would be not offering the information until after your secure at your new desk.

Do not tell anyone at work until you have to. If it’s accurate that as someone above mentioned you have to give 30 days’ notice for maternity leave, tell them then. Besides all the other reasons mentioned, there is the tiny but real (and depressing) possibility that things might not go as planned. Not to jinx you or anything, but I had a miscarriage at 18 weeks and deeply regretted telling anyone outside of my immediate family about the pregnancy.

Dogzilla, I think you’ve summed it up well. Nice job.

Thank you everyone so much for your feedback. It’s really nice especially to hear from people who do hiring to know that, as I suspected, it does suck. My supervisor of course knows about my pregnancy, but I’d be really surprised if she was gossipy about it to an HR person on a different campus. It really is a huge company and there are different HRs for each location. Though it may be on my record somewhere that I called corporate Employee Services to inquire about maternity leave, which I did do weeks ago.

Dogzilla, I really like your suggestion. If I’m offered the job I’ll do something along those lines.

Ouch. It is really difficult. It seems like it’s unwise to mention it during the interview: there’s a big risk they’ll think “we really need someone in six months, but we can’t legally discriminate, so we’ll just pretend she’s not good enough”, even subconsciously. And the law is clearly on your side (especially because you’ll still be working at the same company).

OTOH, you don’t want to screw them over by waiting until the last second possible unless you’re sure your bridges are already burnt.

I’m not sure between telling them immediately you get the offer, or when you get the job, or a couple of months in. If you do hope to stay in the job, and you can half-way trust your manager it’s best to get in sooner so they’ll know, but if it’s a lost cause, obviously best not to and to hope for the best :frowning:

Responding to the offer seems reasonable, although I wouldn’t flat-out decline, I’d just say, “Thank you. By the way, there’s one more important thing you should know… Would you rather I started the job after I return from maternity leave?” or something. Then the onus is on them to decide if they can cope with it or not, but if they turn you down, you’ve a pretty clear case they did so illegally (if understandably), which may not help now, but in future you can point to it as you clearly being qualified when you DO want the promotion (or a job elsewhere). Hopefully they’ll accept you immediately or have someone cover. But honestly, if you turn it down, the chance of them being grateful later is really low: even if they honestly do think highly of you for it, the chances are someone else will be in charge in a year’s time and it’ll be worthless.

(Similarly, if you do agree an “acceptance but deferred start”, which doesn’t sound usual but might be possible, get an agreement in writing if you can, and if not, assume that they’ll be highly incentivized to stick with whoever’s been doing the job for the six months in the middle, rather than accepting you back, however good you are :frowning: )

If you are offered the gig and you accept, then the kindest thing you can do for the new manager is give her or him as much time as possible to plan for workload coverage.

Note: It would probably be some sort of HIPAA violation for your manager or HR to disclose your “condition.” Your medical history is private.