Preventing family and friends from "following" what I comment on Facebook

[Slash1972]

@Yllaria

I hadn’t thought of that, but that’s another crappy result of the practice.

It is, that’s why i think it doesn’t quite work that way.

[usedtobe]

Sometimes, I kinda think “Ya know, since simply everybody is doing this “Social Media” thing, maybe, just maybe, I should give it a chance…”.

Then I get reminded anew why I don’t “do” Social Media.

How did people ever live without instant communication of their every thought. musing or rant to simply Everybody?

Is email with its enchanting Address Books and the ever-entertaining “Reply All” oooopsies, so cumbersome that an instant network of the entire world is really required?

Can’t you just do the modern version of “clip the news article” and send it to an address list of those with whom you wish to share your thoughts?
Or is that “Sooooo 2005!”?

[Slash1972]

@usedtobe

Sometimes, I kinda think “Ya know, since simply everybody is doing this “Social Media” thing, maybe, just maybe, I should give it a chance…”.

Then I get reminded anew why I don’t “do” Social Media.

How did people ever live without instant communication of their every thought. musing or rant to simply Everybody?

Is email with its enchanting Address Books and the ever-entertaining “Reply All” oooopsies, so cumbersome that an instant network of the entire world is really required?

Can’t you just do the modern version of “clip the news article” and send it to an address list of those with whom you wish to share your thoughts?
Or is that “Sooooo 2005!”?

Don’t you have some kids to kick off your lawn?

I used to not use Facebook either, but it is an easy way to show photos of my kids to my family, and to post funny stuff to my friends. That’s about my limit of using it.

[digs]

Hope you’re right about how funny and cute your stuff is… :~D

[cg16]

OP

before you post something that you don’t want certain people to see you follow these steps

1. Go to the drop down box where Friends is checked and scroll down to MORE OPTIONS

2. Then you see CUSTOM and click on that

3. Once you click on Custom you will see at the top "Share With Friends and at the Bottom "Don’t share with Friends

4. You then add the list of Friends at the bottom you don’t want seeing your posts

I do this a lot during football season

[Velocity]

@cg16

OP

before you post something that you don’t want certain people to see you follow these steps

1. Go to the drop down box where Friends is checked and scroll down to MORE OPTIONS

2. Then you see CUSTOM and click on that

3. Once you click on Custom you will see at the top "Share With Friends and at the Bottom "Don’t share with Friends

4. You then add the list of Friends at the bottom you don’t want seeing your posts
   I do this a lot during football season

This is not what I’m referring to.

I’m referring to commenting on other people’s stuff - **bobkitty **put it best:

@bobkitty

If I want to post in solidarity on an LGBTQ page, or “like” a Planned Parenthood post, or respond to a local news story, I want to be able to do so without my friends/family who aren’t as supportive being able to read it. And I don’t think asking FB to not randomly share things I post outside of my own timeline on other people’s newsfeed is all that big of a deal. I’m not mad about it, but I am annoyed that I have to weigh my interest in commenting “HELL YEAH!!!” on the recent Supreme Court abortion decision against my non-interest in having yet another argument over reproduction rights with my hard-right-leaning friends.

[cg16]

@Velocity

This is not what I’m referring to.

I’m referring to commenting on other people’s stuff - **bobkitty **put it best:

Oh my bad, I thought you meant when posting on your timeline

[Yllaria]

@Slash1972

No, I wouldn’t. I would “like” it because I assume when I “like” something, my friends and family could see that I “like” it, because why the hell else would I “like” something?

Then you’re going to be disappointed, because not everything you “like” gets spammed. It’s random.

[skdo23]

@Amateur_Barbarian

Or, put a period after think.

Thank you!

[Slash1972]

@Yllaria

Then you’re going to be disappointed, because not everything you “like” gets spammed. It’s random.

I guess I’ll try to overcome the crippling depression I feel when my Facebook friends don’t get a chance to see that I “like” Home Depot :rolleyes:

[cg16]

I wish it was something separate called FamilyBook or FriendsBook because I don’t want my family seeing everything i do.

[kayaker]

When my daughter’s college graduation was looming and she was looking for a job, her Facebook page was a concern.

So, she created another. She has since maintained one Facebook page that’s “real” and one that is squeaky clean. Apparently it’s a thing, many of her friends have the same arrangement.

[Pai325]

@kayaker

When my daughter’s college graduation was looming and she was looking for a job, her Facebook page was a concern.

So, she created another. She has since maintained one Facebook page that’s “real” and one that is squeaky clean. Apparently it’s a thing, many of her friends have the same arrangement.

I think even younger kids do that. One for Grandma and the parents, and one for friends.

It’s not hard. I have more than one, and so do a lot of people I know.

[BigT]

@Slash1972

No, I wouldn’t. I would “like” it because I assume when I “like” something, my friends and family could see that I “like” it, because why the hell else would I “like” something?

To tell the person you liked that you liked it, and to tell Facebook that you want to see more content of the same kind.

And when you comment on a page outside of Facebook, you are doing so for that website. Facebook’s comment platform is supposed to be completely separate from its social media platform. If that has changed, this changes a lot of things.

I have never seen anything from an offsite comments section show up on my feed, and I’ve checked with friends I trust who say they’ve never seen anything about any of my comments.

If this changes, then I will have to comment less on sites like FiveThirtyEight.com. I don’t want political conversations with my Facebook friends. My newsfeed is a politics-free zone on purpose. I get that everywhere else online. And it’s one of the three topics you don’t really talk with your friends about.

[BigT]

@Pai325

I think even younger kids do that. One for Grandma and the parents, and one for friends.

It’s not hard. I have more than one, and so do a lot of people I know.

It’s not hard, but it’s a violation of the terms of service for the site. It’s not policed all that well, but, then again, neither is the real name policy. But I have seen people bit by the latter, so it wouldn’t surprise me if people sporadically get hit by the former.

Also, correction of my previous post: “the person whose post you liked that you liked it.” I don’t mean it only tells people who you like.

I’m personally not sure why Facebook doesn’t let you set an audience for everything. Seems like it shouldn’t matter to them–they get the info either way. Same with being able to use a fake name or separate account, as long as you let Facebook know about it.

Both of those are where Google+ actually is superior. I can have a “Page” as another account, and you have those “Circles.” But no one uses it except Internet Content Creators.

[puzzlegal]

@bobkitty

If I want to post in solidarity on an LGBTQ page, or “like” a Planned Parenthood post, or respond to a local news story, I want to be able to do so without my friends/family who aren’t as supportive being able to read it. And I don’t think asking FB to not randomly share things I post outside of my own timeline on other people’s newsfeed is all that big of a deal. I’m not mad about it, but I am annoyed that I have to weigh my interest in commenting “HELL YEAH!!!” on the recent Supreme Court abortion decision against my non-interest in having yet another argument over reproduction rights with my hard-right-leaning friends.

So, not to derail the Facebook hate, but you are doing a hell of a lot more for LGBTQ solidarity if your conservative friends see that you support their page than if they don’t. And you don’t have to engage your friends if they want to argue the point.

That being said, i argue politics in places like this, and try to keep my Facebook page politics free. If my friends post too much about politics, i stop following them. I go to Facebook to see who had a baby, whose mom is ill, cute animal videos, and cool science videos.

[Cazzle]

It’s frustrating and it limits my participation in some things. I’m a member of a group that is lobbying to push religious education classes out of Australian public schools, and I’m also the best friend of a new Christian. Any time I like or comment on the anti-religion-in-schools stuff, she feels personally attacked. I am torn between being supportive of my friend and active in support of a cause I strongly believe in.

Sometimes a friend will post something on their own wall that’s hilarious and crude; I choose not to join in the mirthful commentary because I don’t want it shared with my great aunts, former boss or coworkers. Yet I want to keep those people around because Facebook is a great way to keep in contact with them. Anything I post on my own wall, I can filter so I only share it with the appropriate audience, but I can’t do that with comments or likes I make on other people’s walls.

And I want to participate in discussions on the wall of the local chapter of the political group I support without alternating friends who are ideologically worlds apart from me; folks I’d never engage in a political discussion in real life because I already know we’re coming at issues from opposite places. There should be no reason for those worlds to collide, but Facebook doesn’t give me the tools to keep them apart.

[kayaker]

Eliahna, I am in the same kind of situation you are, but a while back I just said fuck it. I don’t think I’ve lost any friends and my relatives still speak to me.

[spamforbrains]

So, she created another. She has since maintained one Facebook page that’s “real” and one that is squeaky clean. Apparently it’s a thing, many of her friends have the same arrangement.

except that’s not allowed unless you have a personal and a business page.

[kayaker]

@spamforbrains

except that’s not allowed unless you have a personal and a business page.

Regardless, it’s widely done.