You think this is the case? And if you’re wrong?
Perhaps what is needed is someone to judge, someone to seperate the deserving from the undeserving. Are you qualified for such a position?
A giving hand is going to be abused. That’s a fact. Kind and humane people are taken advantage of every day, in a thousand ways. If you can’t handle that fact, then don’t go down that road, you’re not strong enough, and will only end up bitter and misanthropic - a net loss.
Is it rational, provable, is it like the Laws of Thermodynamics, I can take you into the lab and prove it? Nope. Will humanity and compassion make your life easier, give you more access to the bright shiny toys that make life worthwhile. Certainly not, it will add burdens. Worse, it will enslave you to a conscience that is never entirely satisfied, no relentlessly nagging spouse or parent could ever be its equal.
Will it bring you the delight of being envied and deferred to? No. Will attractive members of your preferred gender throw themselves at your feet? No. Then why in the world should you even try? I have no idea. I’m not even particularly good at it, being lazy and self-indulgent.
I have met people for whom it comes naturally, who are gentle, strong and kindly, and, tell you the truth, they piss me off. I can’t wait to find them out, to expose thier hypocrisy and/or foolishness, anything, however minor, that will give me release from shame and envy. How dare they! How do they dare just to be good?! It’s not fair!
Am I willing to afflict the comfortable in order to comfort the afflicted? Without so much as a moment’s hesitation. I won’t even ask if they deserve it. I’ve made my choices, you make yours.