To get back to somehwere in the vicinity of the OP, pronouns do seem like a minor thing to get annoyed about.
Personally I refuse to get involved in it. If I were ever asked to declare my preferred pronouns I’d simply say “none”. It is the same answer I give (where possible) for any item of personal information that is none of anyone’s business. Ethnicity, sexuality, gender etc. I’ll decide if it is relevant and whether your reason for wanting to know is valid or not.
No one has ever asked me to use specific or special pronouns for them or pulled me up on the ones I have used so that’s a bridge I’ll cross when I get to it.