(Referring to post #17)
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There’s a lot of falling-sky stuff here, and not that much of reality. Of course kids today have nicer stuff than kids 30 years ago- society as a whole has more disposable income than it did 30 years ago.
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I beg to differ. I’ve taught at a variety of schools and seen too much of it. E.g. children raising children…just today, a fellow teacher was talking about a student: “Her mom is 28.” The kid is 14. Different schools have had different issues, but IMO issues in public schools reflect how parents are living their lives and raising their kids.
As for disposable income, the fact that my parents had some didn’t automatically entitle me to it, nor did they think they had to give it to show love. With the real estate situation today, I wonder how much disillusionment there is now that mommy and daddy can’t buy junior a car.
And then there are the twixters. I happened to catch the article in Time mag while waiting for my doctor’s appt. Twixters are children in their 20s who have decided they don’t want to leave home, often despite having a college degree. They usually take low-paying jobs and put all their earnings into luxuries.
When he finally got around to me, I mentioned it. He said, “I have patients whose kids are driving them into the poor house. They won’t tell them no.”
From an article:
There was a time when people looked forward to taking on the mantle of adulthood. That time is past. Now our culture trains young people to fear it. “I don’t ever want a lawn,” says Swann. “I don’t ever want to drive two hours to get to work. I do not want to be a parent. I mean, hell, why would I? There’s so much fun to be had while you’re young.” He does have a point. Twixters have all
the privileges of grownups now but only some of the responsibilities. From the point of view of the twixters, upstairs in their childhood bedrooms, snuggled up under their Star Wars comforters, it can look all downhill.
http://pasta.cantbedone.org/pages/6SVlUd.htm
I just hope the Super Nanny keeps straightening out kids before they come to my class.
By the way, as a frame of reference: as public schools go, I’d say mine is better than average. We haven’t had problems with test scores, and we don’t have fights very often. I know of one kid who was dealing some drugs, but there may have been more I didn’t hear about. I think we had something like 80% of kids qualify for free lunches. Our enrollment is around 1500 and we do have a police officer on campus.
One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed since I started teaching in 1986 is that kids care less and less if they fail. Honestly when I was 14, I probably didn’t care enough either but I knew my parents did. I’ve sat down with students and their parents and when the parent learns the kid is failing 50% or even 75% of their classes, I don’t see a major eruption from most of the parents. Often the kids are failing for dumb reasons. They did the work but didn’t turn it in, or they didn’t make up a test after an absence. It’s as if the parents don’t think they have any way of influencing the child. If they haven’t figured it out by now, I guess they don’t.