I can’t say that I will help you understand, but I can offer a few personal clarifications that have helped me understand what’s going on in QM, specifically the double-slit experiment.
First off, I believe it is technically incorrect to say that a single particle is passing thru both slits at once. My problem with this statement is that the language is contradictory: Particles by definition do not exist in two places at once.
Now before a host of QM experts descend on me for denying a particle can behave this way, let me first say that the statement is perhaps better phrased as “The state function associated with a particle for its entire path thru the experimental apparatus allows for trajectories that pass thru either slit”. The electron always follows one and only one of these potential paths, but the path is chosen randomly (as far as we can tell) based on the probabilities allowed by the state function. Given this interpretation, if the experiment is conducted with a single electron (and you had an extremely sensitive detecting plate), you would not see a single electron smeared out in an interference pattern, but a single dot. Repeat the single-electron experiment (e.g. send one every second or so), and the pattern of dots would create the expected interference pattern.
Classically, you’d expect each single electron to follow the same chosen path and create a single cluster of dots on the plate (if the path was good enough for the first, it should be good enough–assuming similar conditions–for any subsequent one). In fact, if the experiment is altered such that efforts are made to detect which slit the electron passes thru, the results conform to classical expectations. QM balks at this, saying this effort to detect is also part of the experimental apparatus; since the apparatus of the experiment is what determines the value of the particle’s state function, and the state function determines the probability of possible paths, its no surprise adding this element would affect the outcome.
As noted, this appears to fly in the face of traditional science. Well-designed experiments ought to be repeatable; if all physical parameters in a macroscopic-world projectile experiment are held constant, the same results will always occur. This deterministic assumption is so pervasive that it is built into Newton’s laws of physics: With a knowledge of all physical parameters of an experiment at time t, you can determine these same parameters at time t+dt, and with a little calculus for all time after t. There are of course errors that must be considered in any physical experiment, but the basis of Newton’s laws are such that if you could account for every error term (i.e. if you had the mind of God), you could determine a body’s exact postion at any moment in the future.
The linked article’s point, I think, is to reveal this interpretation at the heart of traditional physics. Beyond that, the article notes that a second way of understanding basic physics is provided by the Hamiltonian interpretation of motion, where of all possible paths an object can take, nature selects the one that involves the “least effort”. This is somewhat different than the deterministic scheme of Newton–where one moment flows inexorably into the next–in that it assumes some sort of “foreknowledge” (a loaded word, I know, but the best I can do) about the path prior to the start of motion. A strict Newtonian interpretation would find this idea absurd: if, e.g. you’re putting a ball on an undulated green, how can the ball know about the forces produced by rolling up or down a bump in the green before the ball is struck? And just how is this “evaluation” of alternate paths made?
The very words I’ve used to describe these ideas–“foreknowledge” and “evaluation”–seem to underscore the classical need for complete knowledge of all physical parameters at time t before moving into time t+dt. In fact, classically the Hamiltonian interpretation of mechanics has relied on a pre-defined concept of “energy”, a quantity somehow possessed by the object in motion and traded/augmented/diminished according to specific physical rules (the Hamiltonian equivalent of Newtonian laws) while the object moves thru an experiment.
But the other possible interpretation–that some kind of “path evaluation” is done in advance of motion–seems to be confirmed by the results of QM experiments. I say “seems” because I don’t believe paths are actually evaluated by a conscious electron, but at some level alternate paths are a possibility before the electron follows one. Moreover, it would be a mistake to think these alternate paths exist merely because there was some error at the atomic level we were not accounting for, because the math of the Heisenberg Uncertainty relation shows that this “error” is built into the fabric of reality (at least the reality interpreted by QM).
This, I think, is at the heart of the interpretation dilemma: Classical physics has trained us to such an extent that we inherently approach any physics problem such that if perfectly understand all possible phyical parameters at time t, there are laws which tell us exactly what state these same parameters will be in at time t+dt, and hence for all time in the future. Alternate interpretations–such as the one offered by QM–fly in the face of this assumption because they support randomness, not a randomness associated with expected error, but one built into the interpretation itself.