This article makes claims that I have trouble believing.
There’s more here.
I’m feeling sick after reading that. Disposable children. I can’t understand how this can happen.
One thing I can’t wrap my head around is how there doesn’t seem to be guidance for people adopting older children? If you want to adopt children who have been in institutions, or who have otherwise been abandoned, you need to realise you are not adopting a normal child. They are not like normal children. They can be wonderful, amazing, they can blow you away, but they are never like average children. I don’t understand how someone can adopt an older child with the idea that all will be peachy, and then get rid of them when it’s less than perfect. 
It’s too horrible.
Just reading some of those verbatim comments that people were using as adverts to dispose of their child is too much.
I just… I have no words.
I’m not sure “average” children are like average children.
This is so messed up.
It’s messed up that adoptive parents who are ill-equipped to handle emotional disturbed children would be given emotionally disturbed children.
It’s messed up that once adopted, there aren’t enough affordable, effective services available to help these kids.
It’s messed up that this girl was re-homed once already before she was re-homed again. Put up for adoption. Then given up twice. That’s got to make an emotionally disturbed kid even more disturbed.
It’s messed up that her second pair of fed-up parents wouldn’t fly out and check things out before handing her over to complete strangers. I’m glad that guy finally came to his senses and rescued her, but WTH was he thinking letting it get that far? They could have already killed her by the time he’d gotten there.
I know, and I do agree. But it seems like the ill-prepared people adopting older children are expecting some degree of average that should not be within the range of expectation for that sort of child. Honestly, I’m not sure adopting older children internationally or from institutions should be possible for people without professional experience with children from that background, or at the very least with a lot of professional support.
Where I used to work, in a children’s home, the only children who were ever adopted went with (former) employees or people strongly associated with us. It wasn’t a policy because it very rarely came up, but the children would certainly not have just been given away to anyone. That’s just another abandonment.
Even if she hadn’t been emotionally disturbed to start with, those experiences would have sent her over the edge.
Oh, I can understand alright - people fall in love with the notion of having a child without first falling in love with a particular child. They become convinced goodwill (and in some cases, Jesus) will solve all problems. They don’t have a clue how disruptive a child with a Capital P Problem will be to them and their families. They’ve totally swallowed all the feel good stories the media dish out about happy adoptions and happily ever after.
Yes, well, people do that with their own biological children, too, rejecting them when they aren’t perfect or aren’t what they wanted.
That said, I do have an issue with the notion that parents who 'fess up to not being able to handle a particular child are declared “unfit”. There are some things the average person simply isn’t equipped to handle, there are people who just can’t get along, and I’d rather encourage people to find a safe solution than condemn them as bad people after admitting their in over their heads.
On top of that - there are some evil people who want to do terrible/immoral/illegal things to kids (or simply a victim that can’t fight back effectively) and are all too ready to lie and cheat, offering an out to overwhelmed parents (who might have good intentions, even if their actions don’t turn out well). People who want a child to sleep naked between them and use as a sex toy are Not Nice, they’re actually pretty damn sick, and it should surprise no one that such people would use lies and fabrications to get what they want.
This is so true, and another reason it shouldn’t be just a simple thing to adopt older children. They are complete people, people you may or may not click with and you’re essentially marrying them. (As in, making a whole different human being part of your family, a human being with a personality and everything.)
Ugh ugh ugh :mad: 
This is so bad. I had no idea. 
I don’t understand why everyone isn’t in jail, including (and especially) the original adoptive parents. You don’t get to throw away kids. I don’t care how disturbed and violent and disruptive they are. You made the deal. And if you’re not equipped to deal with it, or you’re broke, don’t adopt them.
I swear - no one is more protective of civil liberties than me, but every day I see or read something that makes me think that reproduction should be granted by the government, after a rigorous home study, lots of testing and a study of financial stability.