I read not so long ago that people on the spectrum can sometimes gravitate towards performance, and that was kind of an “oh!” moment for me. I’ve never acted or anything like that, but I was pretty good at music performance, and I am as an adult pretty good at presentations, talks, etc. especially if it’s a type of audience that I’m used to working with (work, church) and if I practice (sometimes a lot) first (that’s an issue I have with being able to find words and concepts quickly, not a spectrum issue). I can “turn it on” for an audience – it seems to me that part of what’s going on is that the rules for dealing with groups of people in a presentation-like venue are much simpler and more codified (and easier to rehearse!) than the social rules for dealing with an amorphous group of people where there’s no strict agenda or presentation that unites the meeting.
My diagnosed kiddo is pretty great at giving presentations and terrible at all other social interactions, even one on one, though her one on one is better than her group interactions.