Someone posted to advice columnist Carolyn Hax’s chat this afternoon as follows:
“The facts are the facts. 85% of men are married or in a committed relationship within 2 years after their wife dies. 5% of widows are.”
I found both of these numbers…very surprising. I would have guessed that men are indeed more likely than women to find romance after the death of a spouse, but I thought that 85% seemed much too high and 5% way too low.
Of course, my impression is based almost entirely on people I know, which may skew one way or another. So I did a little online research and found:
–a study suggesting that the actual numbers are 61% for men and 19% for women, again within two years, but this research seems to be from 1996
–another, more recent, study, focusing (I think) on Canada, saying a 29% remarriage rate for men within TEN years and 7% for women, also in ten years (and half as many in each case for cohabitation without marriage)
–another study, this one from 1995, which finds that in the over-65 population the rates of remarriage are just 20% for men and 2% for women
–yet another, suggesting that just 12% of widowers and 5% of widows ever remarry (for the record, I find both of these numbers surprisingly low)
Well, that’s enough to indicate the issue. I am not quite feeling up to the task of evaluating the different figures. Wondering where the “facts” in the chat may have come from, and how accurate they are; also if there is a generally-accepted figure that likely reflects the reality of the 2020s. Or if this is just one of those things that nobody really knows the answer to.
Anyway, as a widower of more than two years who is neither remarried nor in a committed relationship at present, I’m just curious! Thanks for any information.