I feel like society puts a lot of stock in role models. Celebrities, family members, people that for whatever reason you want to be like.
The other day I was asked to write a list of the people I admire most. Here they are:
-My paternal grandmother. Because she raised three children and supported them after being widowed, got herself out of abject poverty and through nursing school, and broke rules that needed to be broken. She gave a lot of people who couldn’t necessarily afford it the medicine they needed. The family misses her fierce.
-My maternal grandparents. Because they’ve been through good and bad in 50+ years of marriage, strove to make things better for their daughters, and have served as the unifier of that side of the family. They have served their country, communities, and family with grace and dignity that is simply uncommon.
-My girlfriend. Because I’ve never known a truer heart. Because she puts up with me, is the strongest woman I know, and is much more than a quiet girl.
I don’t really like the idea of role models on general principle. It implies that a role model should be someone noble, someone higher than everyone else. I feel like it should be something different, something more realistic.
I want a role model who screws up specacularly and learns from it, thinks, loves to fuck, is sensible about life, has a great sense of humor, and is passionate. Someone who cries once and awhile, sings even when people might hear, and appreciates everyday things.
These are sort of people I tend to admire. You?