That sucks, but aren’t you glad you didn’t give her the painting now?
[QUOTE=pool]
That sucks, but aren’t you glad you didn’t give her the painting now?
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Meh. She could still have it if I thought she’d hang it. But I’m not going to offer it.
[QUOTE=tdn]
Read the whole thread, dude. I manned up. I asked. She said yes. Then she said no. The burnt, blackened remains of my heart are all over the floor.
I just passed her in the hall. We gave each other the customary friendly smile. No words.
Fuck.
This calls for paint therapy.
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Go with this imagery. Then hang it in a closet and burn candles in her name.
[QUOTE=tdn]
The burnt, blackened remains of my heart are all over the floor.
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Have you thought about switching to charcoal as your medium?
[QUOTE=gigi]
Have you thought about switching to charcoal as your medium?
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Heh. First smile of the day.
[QUOTE=Sunrazor]
Yes. Now go, ask, enjoy.
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OK, someday I will learn to read every single post before posting – so sorry about the turndown, dude. But I salute you for stepping up and taking the risk. You can drink my bourbon any day.
[QUOTE=Sunrazor]
OK, someday I will learn to read every single post before posting – so sorry about the turndown, dude. But I salute you for stepping up and taking the risk. You can drink my bourbon any day.
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Thanks.
I’m trying to think of a good reply to her. I’m thinking, in part, “If this guy does not tell you every single day that you are the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world, then he has no heart and no brain.” Probably a little strong.
[QUOTE=tdn]
I’m trying to think of a good reply to her. I’m thinking, in part, “If this guy does not tell you every single day that you are the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world, then he has no heart and no brain.” Probably a little strong.
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I really don’t think the email invites a response. The plane has crashed into the mountain. She’s made it as awkwardness-free as possible, take it as a gift. And remember, the gods love and protect those women who kneecap us quickly and relatively painlessly.
[QUOTE=tdn]
This calls for paint therapy.
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And if what they say about artists this should be your best work yet. Just be glad that she was nice enough to tell you up front. I wouldn’t stop talking to her though. Maybe the other guy will not work out then you cna have your chance.
[QUOTE=tdn]
Thanks.
I’m trying to think of a good reply to her. I’m thinking, in part, “If this guy does not tell you every single day that you are the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world, then he has no heart and no brain.” Probably a little strong.
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Her email msg. was very tactful and gracious. I’d drop any ideas of flirting w/ her for now. Just acknowledge her kind response. To pursue the point will make you sound a bit creepy. If she’s interested and her current relationship doesn’t work out, she’ll probably find a way to drop you a hint. Until then go back to admiring her from a distance, or look for someone who is available.
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Her email msg. was very tactful and gracious. I’d drop any ideas of flirting w/ her for now. Just acknowledge her kind response.
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I just did. I also acknowleged how difficult it was for me to ask, and I wished her a lifetime of happiness. I hope it was appropriate.
[QUOTE=tdn]
I just did. I also acknowleged how difficult it was for me to ask, and I wished her a lifetime of happiness. I hope it was appropriate.
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Sounds all good to me, you never want to come across as desperate or needy, it’s a killer turnoff.
She responded to my response, and everything’s good now.
Except for my achy breaky heart, of course.
For future reference, the ideal move when a woman expresses interest in your art is to invite her over to see the rest of your work.
“Want to come up and see my etchings?”
It’s a classic.
Hey, she respects you enough not to jerk you around, or keep you as a spare in case her current interest doesn’t work out. Can’t very well file it under “want” but definitely consider it for “settle for”. Plus, you get to bring your suffering out in your next piece of art!
[QUOTE=Malacandra]
Plus, you get to bring your suffering out in your next piece of art!
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Oh trust me, tonight I’m going to suffer all over expensive Arches paper. Ironically enough, the paper my ex gave to me for Valentine’s, about an hour before we broke up. Because I was in love with another. Who, as it turns out…
Fuck.
Abstract in black and pink.
Little consolation, but in walking to the cafeteria, I was stopped by a cute female human who I don’t know, but apparently she knows me. She said “Hey, you’ve lost a lot of weight. You look great!” A little further along, a woman who’s a little old and wrinkly for me, but otherwise drop-dead gorgeous, gave me a huge flirt.
It ain’t much, but I’ll take it.
Eep, sorry to hear that, tdn. Well, you’re not waiting and wondering any more, if that’s any consolation.
Now that you’re on a roll, go ask a whole bunch more ladies out. Shoo! Go!
Just for the sake of completeness:
[QUOTE=me]
Hi L,
Thanks for your kind and discreet message. I won’t pretend that I’m not deeply disappointed. I’m glad I finally asked you out, though. After four and a half years of wanting to, it was the hardest thing for me to do in recent memory. I was so nervous! Better than a lifetime of “what if?”
I wish you all the happiness in the world. You deserve it.
Let’s not have any office weirdness though, OK?
-Todd
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[QUOTE=her]
Hey Todd!
Thanks for your nice message and for understanding. You are a good friend and I would be really bummed to lose that. I’m glad you asked and we talked about it.
You deserve all the happiness too and I wish that for you. Agreed - no office weirdness - we’re way beyond that.
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Perfect, carry on.
Back to the drawing board 