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Never stack used pans in the sink, Too much clutter.Take them from the stove when the other dishes are done.
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Never tell someone who is doing the dishes they are doing it wrong.
I agree with your rules. One of my rules is do the dishes during or immediately after the cooking process, even if that means delaying eating for a few minutes. I hate finishing eating and then having 10 minutes of clean-up and dish washing ahead of me. BTW, I live alone and cook all my own meals.
I think it depends on how they’re doing it wrong. I had college roommates who put knives in the dish rack pointed end up. Or someone who washes dishes so poorly that they need to be rewashed.
Knives up definitely gets called out.
We wash by hand, some days the dirty dishes accumulate, but nothing gets cooked or prepped until the dirty dishes are washed. Preferably then put away. Or if the dishes were washed then sat overnight, nothing gets cooked or prepped until the clean dishes are put away.
Most times I’ll wash as I go along, ain’t enough room to allow the prep dishes to pile up and wait. Big meals gotta reuse some of those bowls knives utensils and cutting boards anyway.
Maybe the rule should be “Never tell a spouse they’re doing it wrong.” That’s one I learned eventually.
No sharps in the sink. They stay on the counter and get washed one at a time. I got badly cut when some clown dropped a large blade into the soapy water and it rolled up onto its back.
I don’t wash dishes like that with a sink full of soapy water.
Heck, you don’t even have to say it. All I have to do is move things around in the dishwasher after she has already partly loaded it, and I get my ass handed to me.
Me: stuff it in the dishwasher. It usually gets everything off.
My wife: No, you must rinse it first,
Me: all right, you do it then…
I think you got the priority order of your rules wrong. Or at least that’s what my ex-wife told me. Not joking.
I’m surprised that there aren’t divorces over the method of loading dishwashers. Or maybe there are. Everybody who’s ever loaded my dishwasher has always done it wrong. I load it with careful consideration for fluid dynamics, and also with due respect for a dishwasher’s limitations. Rinsing isn’t necessary, but no detergent on earth is going to remove burned-on crud unless attacked with an industrial pressure washer!
My beloved brother and SIL shared this pearl with me: if you have people over for wine … wash the wine glasses the next day, not that night.
Wisdom.
I cook. You wash. And clean the mess up. And I will never say what I think about your dishwasher loading method (I’ll use this euphemism for lack of a better word) again. I may collaborate with the unloading. Hand over the cooking knifes, I’ll do them separately.
In my experience, many people think there is a right way to load the dishwasher, but in fact they’re just being a controlling jerk and it doesn’t really matter. It is important to have enough introspection to know if someone loading it the wrong way is really doing it wrong, or perhaps only a bit less efficiently or even more trivially are violating some made-up rule that only exists to satisfy an OCD need for order or symmetry.
Some things matter. Certain plastics go on the top shelf because they are damaged by heat on the lower shelf. Knives go in the knife holder. Nothing should interfere with the spinner. Cups don’t face up…
We have two styles of plate, and they must be loaded in a certain order. Type 1 and then type 2 is fine, but type 2 then type 1 and they’ll nest and the type 2 won’t clean. My wife does not know or perhaps doesn’t care about this rule. I never say anything. I’ll sort the plates if they’re in wrong, but often the plates need to be shifted around to accommodate other dishes, so shuffling them isn’t aggressive.
My one rule:
“If you can lean, you can clean”
(My DIL can never do the dishwasher loading properly, I generally go after her and straighten it up. Say nothing)
It this is even remotely a reference to my post where I say that everyone but me loads the dishwasher wrong, let me say that in my experience, many people lack a sense of humour. 
But there’s actually some value in ensuring that large objects don’t block others from getting the high-pressure spray, or indeed even block the spray arms themselves. Dishwashers aren’t magical appliances where things get magically clean just because they get wet!
I do nearly all the work in the kitchen. I cook and I clean. I hate it when my wife piles random dirty dishes, pots, pans, and other miscellany in the sink because then I have to stack it on the counter just to get started washing. She knows not to put knives in the sink, though, largely because in the past I’d freak when she did - bad for the knives, bad for my fingers.
I let her dishwasher loading slide until it’s just about time to run the load, then I’ll rearrange everything so it’s more efficient. I don’t know if she even knows I do it, because I unload it at least 75% of the time, too.
On the rare occasion that she washes dishes, I don’t care how she does it because she does a pretty good job, and as long as she’s cleaning up her own mess, so much the better.
My rule for dishwashing is: If you’re nice enough to wash the dishes, you can do it any damn way you like.
I’m confused. Where is the food at this time?
Similarly, I never put knives directly into a dishpan. If you can’t see through the suds, you can reach in and grab a blade.
bad rule. when the food is done, I want to eat. Waiting until after the dishes is done ensures cold and sub-optimal food.