This, sir, is unfortunately epitome of what I find offensive about the whole pro-life movement. Killing unborn babies is horrible, sinful, and, as you said, “a grave evil.” Allowing babies who have been born to die; allowing babies to die of miscarriages because the mothers can’t afford prenatal care is perfectly acceptable because it’s somebody else’s problem.
Look, as it happens, I find abortion morally wrong and I do think in some cases it’s killing a child, although I don’t have the arrogance to presume I know when a fertilized egg becomes ensouled, to use an old word. I also live in a world in which things sometimes go horribly wrong and there is no good alternative.
Updike, I find your disregard for the preventable deaths of children to be every bit of offensive as I suspect you find my belief that abortion must be kept legal. It speaks to me of a callous disregard for life. It seems to me you’re attitude is, “Learn you’re pregnant after your husband has left you for another woman? Tough luck. You shouldn’t have had sex with your husband.” “Learn you have cancer which will kill you if it’s untreated, even though you’re pregnant? Well, you may have left your other children motherless because you died, but at least you weren’t an evil woman who had an abortion.” “Lost your home, declared bankruptcy, and gave birth to a child with spina bifida because you couldn’t afford health insurance or prenatal care? Too bad, but hey, you didn’t have an abortion.” The latter, I admit, I made up, but I don’t think it’s unrealistic.
Raindog, I don’t think you and I are all that far apart, actually. As I said, I think abortion is morally wrong, although I don’t think life begins at fertilization simply because fertilized eggs don’t necessarily implant in a woman’s uterus and we’ve know way of knowing how many do or do not. There’s also the matter of ectopic pregnancies which bother me, even if they don’t seem to bother anyone else. I am, however, firmly pro-choice in that I don’t think it’s the government’s place to interfere in this decision. I believe abortion should be kept legal. As a young woman in the 1980’s, I was also put off by the cruelty and rudeness of the radical pro-life movement.
I find abortion morally wrong and something to be avoided at all costs. There are also circumstances under which I would have an abortion. I’ve been lucky and sensible. Unlike some Dopers, I haven’t been one of the less than 1% for whom a particular form of birth control fails. Unlike others, I haven’t been raped. I’ve also lived by my moral standards which some would call high, yet, when it comes to abortion, I feel like I find myself lumped in with sluts or, as you said earlier, women who care more about their bikini lines than human life. That’s not true. These days, it’s not that easy to find my bikini line and I wouldn’t inflict the sight of me in a bikini on my fellow men and women.
I would not, however, choose to carry a child to term who would be born with severe handicaps. Neither the gentleman nor I have the resources to care for such a child and the odds of such a child being adopted are very low indeed. I would not want to carry a rapist’s child to term. I’ve had a history of clinical depression. Even though it seems to have sorted itself out, it wasn’t that long ago that I was at risk of suicide because I was out of work. The complications to my mental health if that situation were compounded by an unwanted pregnancy are not complications I would want to undergo.
What really put me off former vice president Dan Quayle wasn’t the many times he misspoke or said something ridiculous. It was when he said something perfectly understandable. This man who said he was pro-life and that abortion should be illegal was asked what would happen if one of his daughters was raped. He said he would want her to be able to have an abortion. That’s what I ask. Not that abortion be considered a good and common thing; not that we as a society and as individuals do everything we can to prevent abortions; but that they remain safe, legal and available for those times when it’s the least bad alternative available.
Respectfully,
CJ