Also very sorry for your loss @BigT.
And I feel awkward responding to the rest of your posts in the context of your grief but awkwardly I still proceed.
First, no he did not call “apostate Jews” bigots. He did say that Orthodox Jews who categorically cross off Jews who are not Orthodox as apostates are being bigots. I disagree but it is a defensible position.
Given a board in which calling large segments of our American population racists and worse is pretty standard, that is not offensive. As a Jew I certainly experienced no offense.
Now calling a poster
THAT’S a pretty serious thing.
You are literally accusing him of killing people. And sorry if this harsh, but that is delusional.
There are no large hoards of uninformed lurkers reading that forum who will be swayed by posts that you believe are disinformational. There is nothing being said in that regard that the poorly informed are not otherwise being exposed to. Any few lurkers there may be are highly likely already SDMB readers and either have some ideas already or are looking for some critical nonpartisan evaluation of claims made and some broader contextual understanding, beyond the talking point mantras, not just accepting something as fact, but wanting to understand what we really do know, do we really know it, how we know it, and what is uncertain to what degree. Intelligent critical discussion with evaluation and re-evaluation based on new evidence as it comes in, rather than truth first and find evidence later so long as it fits what we already know. Helping each other not only to figure out answers but helping each other figure out what the interesting and important questions are. That is what I have often found on these MBs and has been why I entertain myself here. (And to be very clear, that is what we doing here. We are playing, not saving lives.)
QZ instead is more a church of one brand of orthodoxy eager to burn any heretic who questions the revealed truths. It, like other quasi religious systems plays to emotions and fear but unlike them it wins no converts with that approach.