It’s not uncommon for black men who join traditionally black fraternities to get the fraternity’s Greek letters branded on their upper arms. :eek: Because blacks are more likely to develop keloid scars, it’s hard to miss them which appears to be the point.
Like with tattoos, I understand most of them regret it later. (OUCH!)
We’ve spoken at length about this. To greatly condense hours of talk, he’s had a pretty rough life. His family was the stuff of nightmares. He’s gotten his shit together, handling all that life’s thrown at him. Yet to look at him you’d never know it. The scar externalizes some inner angst, maybe?
His description of the process made me shudder. Two parallel incisions, then the skin between them peeled away. Very bloody. There were a bunch of people at the tattoo shop, but while the scar was being made there was total silence.
When I first heard this, I figured it would be some sort of pattern or design, like a tattoo. While I’m not personally interested in any sort of body art, I can get the concept. And I can also get the concept of proudly wearing and displaying a scar gained in a fight, accident, or act of heroism. But deliberately getting a scar in a controlled situation, that’s designed to look like an act-of-bravery scar, feels sort of dishonest to me.
I don’t know if I’d call it dishonest, but it does seem strange to me. Some sort of pattern or something like a tattoo would make sense, but a deliberate scar on the face to show angst sounds like cutting.
Is your friend going to tell people about where the scar is from, or just not say anything knowing most people would assume he was in some fight?
Those of us who know him will know the background. Once it’s healed, do you really think strangers will approach him and ask? If you see a stranger who is missing an eye do you ask, “hey, what’s up with the eye?”
And I think he “earned” the scar. He sat still in a chair while someone carefully cut out a piece of skin. No anesthesia. Slow and precise. He told me it was (especially the cheek section) ten times worse than any tattoo work he has had done.