I have a 6 year-old tortoise shell, full of her own “tortitude” as they call it. She’s small, only about 5 pounds and completely adorable.
She is very attached to me, and I do love that. She is very vocal, she meows and chirps frequently. I talk to her all the time, I give her lots of attention and “lap time” as much as I can. She is just the neediest cat I have ever had. Like most cats she doesn’t understand why I can’t just be her personal lounge chair all day. I got her from the Humane Society when she was about 6 months old.
The problem is that I travel periodically for work and the rest of the time I work from home. There are other adults in my home, so she is never alone, but she mopes and cries when I am gone and when I return she is super needy. I need to be able to work without her constantly trying to get into my lap and loudly mewing at me and being demanding. I play with her off and on during the day, she has toys and catnip scratching pads which she does use. My work colleagues all know her because she makes an appearance at pretty much every Skype meeting.
I worry she is lonely, but I also don’t want to complicate or disrupt her good habits by introducing another cat. She has transitioned nicely from being an indoor-outdoor cat before I sold my house to an indoor only life now that we are condo living. I have a big screened porch and she loves to go out there and just sit and watch the world go by and nap. She never scratches or picks at the screen, and has a grand time stalking the occasional unfortunate lizard that comes in under the screen door. She has 2 litter boxes, and uses them perfectly. I keep my blinds partially raised because she likes to sit on the window sills and look out, so I think my house is reasonably “catified” as that jackson Galaxy guy says on My Cat From Hell.
I prefer to have more than 1 cat at a time, and have had as many as 8, but I lived in the country then.
I had another cat that I adopted at the same time as her, but he grew into a very large fella that would not stay in the house much and decided he liked the lady 2 doors down better (nobody owns a cat, they pick you!), so she adopted him when I moved because I knew he would be miserable as an indoor cat. Point being, she has lived with another cat, but that was 3 years ago, and with every other cat she has come in contact with since then she has acted like a snot.
I feel bad when I shoo her away and I worry she is bored, but I can’t entertain her every minute. I really do wish she could entertain herself a little more often. This is just a bit too much like having a baby again. I have to wait for her to fall asleep so I can get anything done.
I have had many, many cats in my life, so I understand much of this is just the way cats are, but this little girl is just very EXTRA on the attention-wanting scale.
So, do cats really get lonely for the company of another cat and could this help this issue of wanting my attention all the time? Or is that just me projecting human emotions?
I know introducing a new cat can be a slow and tedious process and you never know if they are going to get along. Sharing space can be disastrous, for sure! I am feeling much more torn about it than I expected.
I thought maybe a kitten might be good, as she might feel protective, but she was fixed when she was so young I doubt she will have an iota of maternal instinct. And also, a kitten might turn out to not be nearly as well-behaved as she is. A larger grown cat would probably make her feel threatened.
The ideal situation is to get a set of litter mates, but obviously that’s not an option right now.
Maybe I should just get her a cat tower and she isn’t actually as lonely, traumatized, or plain ol’ butthurt as I think she is?