So, YOU are reluctant to get a job in HVAC because you have an expectation that the men will think you don’t know what you are doing or want to check you out? Interesting. As for the first, showing you DO know what you are doing is usually a good way to get over this particular hump. Perhaps you think that all men are simply given a pass when starting a new job, automatically assumed to know everything about everything? Let me put it a different way…I’m a man. If I started to work in HVAC I MIGHT be given an initial pass that I knew what I was doing…for about 5 minutes. After that it would be quite clear that I don’t have a clue how HVAC systems work except that they change the temperature of the room somehow. You, being a woman, might NOT get an initial pass (or you might but thats another matter)…for those same 5 min. until you displayed your obvious expertise and made me look like an idiot.
As for the second point about guys checking you out…well, thats life. I’m sorry, but guys are hard wired to ‘check out’ females, and what they think inside is, well, their problem. If they SAY something or DO something then you have plenty of options…starting with the inborn female ability to cut any male off at the knees with her tongue alone, but going all the way up to legal action if necessary.
As to your car point, well, its probably just as annoying to me that females automatically expect me to know all about them as it is to you that males expect you not too. I’m not a mechanic. I don’t know how to fix a plumbing problem, start fires with my bear hands, survive on grubs or kill and skin animals either. There are still expectations of sexual roles that are part of our collective culture that aren’t just going to go away. However, its been my experience that while INITIAL expectations might preclude you from having a discussion about automobiles (or a man, say, from having a conversation with a group of women about cross stitch, say), showing some interest and exhibiting some knowledge will probably break the ice with all but the most hide bound of the other sex. Your husband could probably help by including you in the discussion as well. To use your car example…when talk shifts to how cars work beyond ‘well, you put gas in the tank, right?’ I point at my wife and hold my own hands up.
Got to run to a meeting, so I’ll stop here for now…though I wnt to make some comments on what you were saying about Muslim women in a bit.
-XT