Allow me to confess up front that there will be sneak bragging in this thread. I try not to toot my or my daughter’s horn, as I usually find such behavior not only impolite, but furthermore, pointless, since every mom thinks their kid is talented. Nevertheless, there will be some talking up the kid, here.
So, I will tell the whole long story, and you all just keep it real with me and let me know if I should accept the situation and chalk it up to teaching my daughter to accept things like this happen.
My daughter wanted to attend a school in our city called School of the Arts. I went to this school myself as a kid. It focuses on stuff like drama, music, creative writing, etc. It’s a great school. Academically it is good, but it’s attention to the arts is really impressive.
My daughter took violin for years, but since you can only choose one talent to audition with, she chose Creative Writing. She chose it because she loves it, she really is good at it (I used to write poems for her, I remember when I realized how she is a true poet and I’m the kind of hack that should be embarrassed to show her my stuff) and her teacher would call me out of the blue to tell me that my daughter is so good that she can see her as a published writer one day, no problem.
So, she’s good. I took her to the auditions, and they took her away with dozens of other kids for a classroom type audition, and then she was back, confident she had done well.
Several weeks later I received a letter from Student Placement, telling me she was accepted. Yay! I had let the kid open the letter herself, so she was thrilled, we were thrilled.
One day, on a lark, I decided to look up the audition results on the SOTA website…My daughter’s number wasn’t on there.
This is where it gets sticky, so follow me:
SOTA is the school that auditions the children. After the children qualify, it is Student Placement with the City School District which PLACES them. Student placement is the end all be all.
I called SOTA and said, “I received an acceptance letter, but I don’t see my kid’s name on your website” The vice principal said, “All placements are handled through Student Placement”
I said, “Yes, but surely, you could check to see if she qualified…”
“No, sorry. This rests entirely in Student Placement’s lap. You need to call them. They are the only ones that can put your kid’s name on the list for SOTA”
So I called SP. The head guy told me to fax in my acceptance letter. I did. He assured me he would put my daughter back on the list. I emailed him that I do appreciate his help, but could he confirm with an email, in writing?
He did so. He showed me where she was initially in SOTA, transfered out to another school, and transfered back in to SOTA on that date. All of it was there on my email. I thanked him.
Fast foward a few weeks, and I never received any mail or schedule or class info from SOTA. I got nervous and called them. The vice principal said, “You have to call Student Placement.”
I called them and the secretary checked and assured me my kid was on the list for SOTA. Great. I will wait for the paperwork in the mail containing her schedule and everything.
That was yesterday. Today, I got a call from Student Placement. It was the secretary; “I have bad news. Your child is not on the list for SOTA. There’s been a mistake, and she won’t be able to go to that school. Sorry”
I asked for the head guy I had spoken to before, but she said he’s out. I left a voicemail.
I called SOTA and got the vice principal.
Me: "Is my daughter no longer on the list for your school?
Him: “Sorry, no. Like I told you at the beginning of the summer, her scores didn’t qualify her.”
Me: you never told me that.
Him: Please don’t question my integrety. I’m not a liar.
At that point, I broke into tears. I know, I know, big mistake. I know I shouldn’t have done that, and I make no excuses. Just a weak move on my part. He said, he feels bad, but this is NOT going to change. Good luck next year.
So, what is my next step? Accept the reality that there has been a mistake and my baby didn’t make it? Or fight this…asking for the Principal and things like that.
I think I know that the answer is acceptance. I guess I hope someone tells me different. I know this is long and not a very interesting topic, but is there anyone who wants to pitch in some advice?