should I offer unsolicited advice regarding my girlfriend's piss-poor resume'?

How about this as a different approach:

  1. Redraft the resume as you feel it should look?
  2. Invent a fake HR person at your company and make a fake email address to match it. From this create a fake forwarded email to her including the revised CV (no redlining, just the clean version)
  3. Hand it to her/email it to her and say, “I mentioned to the HR dept. at work when I was in there signing my end of year bonus check that you were thinking of looking for a new job and it came up that it was slow so my colleague said, let me take a look at her resume and perhaps I can give some pointers.”
    She may see through it, but I think it provides a legitimate story that would cover the rewritten CV.

Yes, nowadays you need a pro to re-do your resume. Not only to catch these sort of errors, but to put in the right buzzwords for the bots to find.

You’re a sneaky one. I like that.
:realizes I also just told the OP I like that he’s honest:

My vote is to tell her. Two months in is a nice time to test the waters for well meaning but possibly off putting suggestions.

If it goes really well, you could also tell her you asked a bunch of strangers on the Internet and told us all she doesn’t come off as particularly bright.

Well, no, that would probably be testing too far…

I’d phrase it as “Would you like me to check it?”, but this.

The last time Middlebro was looking for a job, Littlebro convinced him to let both of us check his résumé: we even found factual errors! (Seriously, Bro, you don’t know what year did you graduate, and we do? Aaargh!) After a bit of back and forth, it was shorter yet more complete and it had formats other than “Times 12, align left” :smack:

I don’t know about yours, but mine has very faint numbers on the 7,8,9,u,i,o,j,k,l, and m keys. To access them, you hold down the fn (function) key next to the control key. So instead of typing ALT plus 130, you’d type ALT plus FN plus j l m. Not really very easy to remember.

If you’re in Word, you can type CTRL plus then e (control key with the apostrophe key, then e.)

If you have any kind of a relationship at all, you should be able to do something to HELP HER GET A BETTER JOB!!!

*Hey, Dude, this will, perhaps, have a bearing on your life, too. *

Yes, by all means. If you can’t correct somebody with whom you are in a romantic relationship, then you are probably me. Oh, wait, you know what I mean.

How about, while you’re sitting at a computer while you’re together, “Wow, HONEY, you kinda missed the boat on this. Come here, hotstuff…look at this…any BIGTIME EMPLOYER would grind you up…come here, sit closer…no, closer…CLOSER!!! um, yummy …here, look…”

ETC…

At only two months, I don’t see a better time to correct her!

A lot of my keys have the numbers worn off (I’ve had the laptop for about five years).

Is she dyslexic? If her spelling is really bad she might be quite sensitive to suggestions because of negative experiences in the past. I would suggest that you be very, very kind. Kinder than you would actually think is necessary.

I also agree with Patty, there might be an issue with job performance anyway, if she can’t spell. It might not be relevant to her job, but to be honest, how many jobs these days don’t really require writing skills? I think you should, again very gently, bring it up.

The reason I am warning you about being very nice is that I have tutored languages. Almost everyone I tutored felt really, really awful about their English/Dutch/Portuguese. They had often been ridiculed, or felt like they had and were very self-conscious. Especially if she is dyslexic, she may have always felt that she was bad at spelling/writing, not knowing why and thinking she is stupid. Please be kind!

Tell her. I wouldn’t want to spend more than two months with someone who had a résumé that bad and couldn’t take constructive criticism.

I agree that you should tell her and also show her this thread :slight_smile: I’d love to get her reaction to what you said about her :D!

But do people in the software industry really care about grammar an’ spelling an’ stuff? Or not looking stupid?

I recently [del]wasted[/del] spent some time online debating a software person who didn’t believe in the germ theory, so I question the overall level of intelligence required to succeed in this profession. :slight_smile:

Speaking only for myself as a software engineer, something at least approaching proper grammar and spelling is very important. This is, of course, predicated on the OP’s girlfriend being a software developer, but the field requires a very detail-oriented individual; if one can’t be bothered to ensure the correctness of one’s résumé, it speaks poorly of this trait.

A certain amount of idiot savantism is accepted in the software industry IF your job is to be brilliant at one thing - writing software. But in general, yes, hiring managers do expect you to be able to read and write and speak properly.

“Grammar an’ spelling an’ stuff” are critical in software development. If a command isn’t spelled correctly, it won’t work. A single missing, extraneous or misplaced punctuation mark can have a cascading effect through several lines or even pages of code.

A college degree doesn’t mean anything. I know many many people in my industry (advertising) that have BA’s from really great universities but they can’t write for shit, or are not bright in other ways. Lots of not-bright people graduate.

Seconding the possibility that she’s dyslexic.

My husband is, and he’s been running everything he writes/types (mostly types, because his handwriting is awful) for professional or social purposes past me ever since I’ve known him. (translation: yes, I take dictation when he wants to send a sympathy card, and I read/correct his work emails.)

I like to proofread, and he likes to not be thought stupid. I know him well enough to know that his mistakes aren’t because he’s dumb, but man he makes some real doozies sometimes.

I live in a near constant state of wanting to kick his primary school teachers and parents in the crotch for letting him get halfway through college before anyone thought to check for dyslexia and offer any support.

So I would mention it offhandedly, and casually mention that you’re willing to help her proofread if she wants, and also to let her know that most people DO hire a professional to help with their resumes. That way she won’t feel so bad about it.

If she’s actively looking for a job, spelling and grammar are the least of what she needs to go over with a fine-tooth comb.

Presumably you talk to her about her job search. Given how much the economy (still) stinks, you can and should emphasize the point that hiring managers are looking for any excuse to winnow down that pile of 300 resumes for one open job. Can’t be arsed to proofread? That reflects poorly on her attention to detail and dedication to something that she ought to have a lot of personal investment in, her livelihood. It’s going to come off as a “meh, good enough” attitude whether she intends it or not.

And while she’s correcting typos, she’ll need to look at how she sells herself in her resume. Is she using strong action verbs or just typing “responsible for X”, “responsible for Y” over and over? Does she give concrete examples of accomplishments on the job that made her employer more efficient, saved him money, cut his costs? Anything she can put actual numbers to? Does she include a summary (not an “objective” – an employer doesn’t care what you want out of a job, it cares what it wants out of an employee) which describes her greatest strengths as an employee and how they’re beneficial to an employer?

There is a TON more that goes into a resume than just listing previous jobs and running spell check. She needs to spend a few hours on it to shape it into what it needs to be. It won’t help her if it’s just slapped together and will probably sabotage her instead.

It’s not necessary to hire a professional – all this stuff can be found online. But she does need to invest the time, which she’d need to do whether she hired someone or not. A pro is not going to know what she did at her previous jobs unless she’s capable of describing it to them – which is exactly what she need to do on her resume for the hiring manager.

PM me if you’d like to see an example. LinkedIn is a little different than your standard “paper” resume, and has some other features she could easily be taking advantage of, too, such as being able to post write-ups/case studies of specific projects she’s worked on – GREAT for demonstrating skills, competency, and results, which is what employers look for. Also, asking for and getting recommendations from people in her network. And then having at least two other people proof it again once she’s done – when looking at it so long, eventually you just see what you intended to type, rather than what you did.

Anyway, I can’t imagine this even being a question in a half-decent relationship. (Then again I wouldn’t last long in a relationship with someone with such a frail ego that she couldn’t handle some constructive criticism – that’s part of being a professional and an adult. YMMV.) Elaborate lies (as proposed by others) seem pointless if you want a successful relationship.

Slight hijack, but I’m curious: He/she didn’t believe in the germ theory? What does he/she believe causes (for example) contagious diseases? Witchcraft? :eek:

Yep, I proof all my husband’s important stuff. He’s far from slow, he’s a physician for one thing, and a complete computer nerd. He set up and runs his own EMR system, set up and maintains all the computers and servers for our clinic, etc. But the man can not spell. Numbers and spatial stuff and the workings of the human body make sense in his head, words do not. I can spell almost anything (accurate typing is another matter!), words are meat and drink to me but numbers don’t make sense without a lot of effort. It’s just the way we are wired, and neither one of us is stupid.