Should party organizers make the invite list pulic?

In My Humble Opinion
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I BCC all the time, especially when sending out an email to a large group of people. The reason?

a) Some people prefer to have their e-mail address private.
b) It saves people from mistaken “reply all” trash in their inbox.
c) It keeps the recipients from having to scroll through 9 pages of email addys.

I prefer receiving emails this way, so I send it that way, too.

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[QUOTE=amarinth]
It’s also for people like me who are vain/insecure enough to start counting down the list - “hmmm…I’m ahead of Phil, but I’m after Sally? Sally got invited before me? Why?”
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Seriously. No. Seriously?

**Jodi ** - I do believe I am following you, only to find you’ve said what I wanted to say. Damn, now I gotta search for something else that interests me and play “Beat Jodi to the punch!” :smiley:
Of course, you say it with fewer typos and "you know what I mean"s

Bean

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[QUOTE=Billdo]
I can’t believe that nobody has mentioned the best reason to BCC everybody: To avoid the dreaded “reply to all” problem.

There will inevitably be one poor schlemiel who clicks “reply to all” when responding, or worse when mentioning some unrelated personal matter (“I’ll be coming, and by the way did the blood test results come back yet?”).
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THANK. YOU.

There have been many, many occasions when a friend has sent something (be it an invite or a random email) to me where 50 people are copied on it, and the majority of those people are folks I don’t know. And then, someone on the list hits “Reply To All” to respond, and someone else responds the same way. Before I know it, I’ve got 15 emails in my inbox from people I don’t know carrying on an email conversation (or worse, perpetuating some inside joke). It is very, very annoying and completely unnecessary.

I think BCCing serves to protect the privacy of your friends and is a matter of common courtesy.

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[QUOTE=Patty O’Furniture]
The people make the party. I don’t see much of a party unless I see an invite list. And I don’t want to be at your party if you’ve only invited me, the doorman at your building, the crazy cat lady from down the street and Woody Allen.

Well ok, maybe the cat lady might be fun to talk to.

I don’t want to walk into a party blindfolded. I’d rather a bunch of strangers have my e-mail address so I can make an informed decision beforehand.

I’m not all that worried about who has my e-mail address. What is somebody going to do with it anyway? The party organizer and probably 99% of the invitees are people that are either in my immediate circle of friends or an adjacent circle.

I like the way e-vite does it, where you can see the invite list along with any comments they’ve made.
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So how do you decide whether to attend someone’s wedding or not? Call the bride and demand the guest list?

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Make your wishes known - I’m sure it will cut down on the proble by cutting down on the invitations.

I see nothing wrong with a blind copy, and in fact, believe it is a courtesy to not give out my email address. If want others to have it, I will give it to them.

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The one good reason to know who is invited to a party is to avoid slipping up and asking someone if they are planning on going when they haven’t been invited. I’m not sure if this justifies not bccing, though.

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Failing to use BCC when emailing a group of people who don’t already have each other’s email addresses is just plain rude. I get angry when people distribute my email address like this for several reasons

  1. I’ve had acquaintances of acquaintances pick up my email address from forwarded emails and add me to their mailing lists of glurge. I don’t want to receive daily emails about God’s love from anyone, least of all the friend of a friend’s friend.
  2. I blame some of my spam on forwarded emails falling into the wrong hands. I always remove the addresses of the other people it was sent to before forwarding something on, but not everyone does that.
  3. I don’t want random strangers contacting me after the event. If I want to keep in touch, I’ll give them my address myself. I don’t think people would like it if the host shared their phone number with all attendees, so why is email any different? I’d be pissed if the creepy guy I kept avoiding all night started emailing me the following Monday.

If people are hung up on knowing who will be there, I suggest hosts start adding a guest list to the body of the message - but only of names, not of email addresses, and for goodness sake, use BCC every time you send a group message! To make it easier to get to, next time you create a new email in Outlook Express go to View, and tick View All Headers. From then on BCC will appear under To: and Cc:. Once upon a time this was the standard setting, and Microsoft should have their butts kicked for changing it.

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[QUOTE=Me]
A solution I’ve been using for a while – and that I learned about here on the Dope
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Found it! It’s from this thread that I started almost 2 years ago, and it was Bites When Provoked’s suggestion. :slight_smile:

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[QUOTE=Hampshire]
So how do you decide whether to attend someone’s wedding or not? Call the bride and demand the guest list?
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My thoughts exactly!

It’s terribly rude to demand the whole party guest list, so why not ask the person who’s inviting if there’s anyone else invited that you might know (aside from the inviter).