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That’s what doesn’t make sense to me. I mean, presumably the church association is opposed for religious reasons not just to gay wedding ceremonies but to gay sex and gay partnerships themselves, right?
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I think your problem is fundamentally misunderstanding religious groups. Rituals are very big within religion. The Methodist Church like most Churches has to be open to the presence of sinners. Many/most Christian denominations view all humans as perpetual sinners, saved only through the grace of God. What is it about the Methodist Church’s doctrine that makes you believe they actively oppose homosexuals having sexual relationships? They generally oppose all sorts of sin, but they aren’t in the active rejection of people who commit these sins. They certainly wouldn’t prohibit an unmarried heterosexual couple from renting a home they own simply because they are unmarried.
Obviously they oppose heterosexuals living together and having sex outside of marriage, but do you think your average Methodist Church refuses to admit heterosexual couples that are “living outside the bonds of marriage?” No, they don’t. Now, there certainly are some Protestant denominations that would probably not want such couples to even attend their weekly services, but in general the Methodists are probably firmly in the “moderate” camp when compared to other Protestant groups, so that isn’t something I would expect from them.
Basically I think you’re missing a key distinction. Does the Methodist Church view homosexual acts as sin? Of course. Do they actively oppose people engaging in homosexual acts? To the extent that they wouldn’t rent out property to homosexuals? To the extent that they advocate for the passage of anti-sodomy laws and et cetera? No, that’s not really been evident as something the Methodist Church does. The Methodist Church is apparently okay with fighting sin through “their message” not in actively fighting sin by trying to prevent sin. Some religious groups obviously try to fight sin by “preventing it”, by trying to criminalize homosexual acts, and et cetera. This doesn’t even mean the UMC is necessarily “less dedicated” to trying to stop sins than the groups that do these things, it could just mean that doctrinally the UMC thinks people have to be left to their own devices, and its job isn’t to try to interfere in society to try and deal with sinners that way but instead it views its job as trying to change the “hearts and minds” of people so that they won’t want to commit sins.
So I think the modern track record of the UMC is not that they are involved in actively working against people who commit what they view as sins. However, I think it is very obvious why they would draw the line at allowing the ritual in an area they view as a Church. Their religious doctrine views marriage as being a union between a man and a woman. Do they have a general “problem” with gays living together and having sex? Sure, they view it as a sin. But the UMC doesn’t project itself as social do-gooder busy bodies like many say, Southern Baptists do.
The UMC probably doesn’t actively oppose homosexual relationships because of its religious and even political outlook. So while the UMC may have a vague, general opposition to homosexual relationships, evidence points to them more or less taking a “live or let live” stance on them. They don’t approve of them, but they aren’t going to be moral crusaders trying to stamp out homosexuals wherever they show up. However, while they may be “live and let live” in that they will preach that such relationships are sin while not going so far as to outright refuse homosexuals presence, allowing a marriage ritual within one of their holy places is materially different. By letting gays congregate in their non-holy areas, they are theoretically just acting the part of “good neighbors” which is something very in line with the teachings of Christ. But if they allowing them to get married within one of their churches that is effectively saying “we approve of homosexual relationships.” They don’t approve of such relationships. They may be fine letting gays rent property, hang out on their beach front and et cetera, but going through what all Christian churches see as a very important, symbolic ritual is doing much more than just “peacefully coexisting” it is giving outright tacit approval.