Me, I’d be happy with “live and let live”. As in, you go over there and do what you want, and don’t fuck with me when I want to do what I want. That, in my book, ought to be the founding principle of “respect”.
I really don’t trust the “religious right” or whatever you want to call that block of America, to abide by that founding principle. Quite the contrary, all the signs lately point to a major push to further a right-wing Christian agenda nationwide, e.g. a Constitutional ban on gay marriage, selection of pro-life justices for the Supreme Court, reenstatement of school prayer, outlawing not just Federally-funded, but all embryonic stem-cell research in the US. And that’s just for starters.
I’m sorry, I don’t see this trend as “respectful”. Rather, I see it as oppressive. Don’t like abortion? Don’t get one! Don’t like stem cell research? Eschew all treatments derived from them! Demand school prayer? Send your kid to a parochial school. Nobody is forcing a secular existence on these people. Nobody is saying they can’t worship, or tell their kids that homosexuaity is a sin, or teach that God made the world in 7 days. They’re completely welcome to any and all such beliefs and traditions if that’s what they want.
But why is it necessary to not only live by so-called Christian values, but to impose them on everyone else? I, quite frankly, don’t think it is. In fact, I think it’s entirely wrong to model a society that way. I don’t see this as a debatable point: There are plenty of folks in our country who are not Christian and do not wish be ruled over by a govt. that favors that faith, or any faith, over any other. Separation of Church and State is written in our Constitution for a damn good reason, and if that separation is eroded one iota more than it has been already, I’m going to feel very disrespected. Not only that, I’m going to make my feelings known in rather stark terms; I’m going to say I don’t much appreciate hearing about your God anymore, thank you very much, and really must insist you stop confronting me with Him in matters of policy.
Is that being disrespectful? I don’t think so. And if it’s taken that way, I don’t care. Sorry, the fundies are wrong on that one, period, and I’m not going to feel obliged to “reason” with them, or “reach out”. I shouldn’t have to, and rather resent being put in that position.