My mini rant seems pathetically, well, mini - I hope those of you that are struggling with anything at all have a health(y or ier) holiday and get some much-needed rest and/or spend time with those you love.
For me, I’m very much looking forward to going to my mom’s house. However, my mini-rants are:
I’ve been cooking all day because my mom thinks that ham is vegetarian and neither my husband nor my daughter will eat meat; given that I don’t want to eat out all the time and the kitchen will be in use most of the time we’re there, I’ve made nearly a week’s worth of vegetarian food that I’ll be transporting during a 3-hour drive.
We forgot to make sure someone could feed the goldfish. Fuck. So instead of there being 3 of us in the car, there will now be six: me, my son and my daughter and, in the cupholder, 3 probably very distressed goldfish. With a week’s worth of food, Christmas gifts, luggage for 3 and a fish tank, my Prius is looking a bit like a clown car.
Yes. She’s fine. The little dummy. I have been crawling around looking for other junk she could ingest. On the plus side, you’ll all be happy to hear 'Baby Jesus ’ has been spotted.
That’s a way better idea than taking them with us. I think this time we’ll probably bring them along, but next time we’ll go with the feeder cake. Those fish act like weird little dogs with my daughter. Every time she gets near the tank they rush forward and start swimming in circles. They ignore pretty much everyone else. Guess she with the food also gets the love.
I’m not super knowledgeable about fish but I can’t imagine the stress of being moved around like that could possibly be good for them. If you can get a feeding cake I would definitely do that instead.
I had no idea what Baby J had to do with anything (a lot of other posts here…) so I looked back through a couple of pages and I must have missed it. Want to tell us?
And so glad you don’t have a Digestive Issues Dog for the holidays.
Actually, the safest thing is to do NOTHING. Give them just their normal feed before you go, and a normal feed when you come back. The fish won’t starve in just a week.
Here’s a quote from the Bristol Aquarists Society:
Feeding - if you have a water quality problem, stop feeding until the problem is over, to reduce the level of wastes in the water. Then resume feeding very lightly: two or three small feeds every day are better than one larger feed as there is less uneaten food and the fish then scour the bottom for leftovers; any food not eaten up in two or three minutes is too much. (Goldfish can go for up to two weeks without food - for example, when you go on holiday, it can be safer to leave fish unfed rather than risk a neighbour overfeeding them and polluting the tank).
As I was crawling around doggy proofing (a—gain!) I had the flashlight and looking under things. Moved to the laundry room and Baby Jesus is between the washer and dryer. The W/D is on a platform thingy and there is a narrow space where stuff and small animals can get. I have a grabby thingy, somewhere in this house to get BJ with, but I don’t care enough to look for it. I went out in the yard and got a brick to keep animals out of the hidey hole. I’m pretty sure the cats put BJ in there because the are scratching and howling loudly at the brick. I ain’t caving. The brick stays til I find another remedy.
My blood pressure was a little low on Wednesday. I think that contributed to my episode. I was fine today. I only have to have a blood pressure taken while standing. No jogging necessary. Dialysis always whups my ass a little, though. I’m usually tired when I get home and have to nap for a few hours.
My daughter has been married for what she thought were nine very happy months. Last week she discovered her husband was looking at hook-up sites. He didn’t realize she received emails that he received as she had his old phone so his account was still logged in. She didn’t even say anything. She hoped he was just exploring. Two days ago, before their big trip home to visit family, he told her he wants a divorce. That he just doesn’t love her. That if she really loved him she’d be happy for him and let him go without any problems. She is devastated. He took her two states away from her family and would pretty much be putting her out on the street if our home wasn’t on his way to his family’s home. He’s taking their dog out of spite (he’s in the military and stays gone days on end so who knows what he will do with the poor dog!) and told her if she didn’t make trouble he’d give her a little money until she gets on her feet. However if she does make trouble he has videos he said he would release on social media. He told her to stop acting dumb when she cried. It’s like he has no conscience, no empathy for what she might be going through. He’s laughing and talking openly to his friends in front of her about how they’re going to party so hard when he gets home. That’s the kind of creep he is. A sick creep who would do that to a sweet girl who worships the ground he walks on. His reaction to her tears is to roll his eyes and tell her to grow a backbone.
I want to destroy him, but I’m helpless. All I can do is get my baby home and try to help her move past this. As a military spouse she HAS options but she’s scared to pursue them because of the threat. This is going to be one fucked up Christmas for her and for all of us.
^^^Aw, man that just bites. Make, beg, conjole her into pursuing her options as a Military wife. Who cares what vids he has. How bad could they be? She could just tell people who matter he manufactured them, somehow. I hope y’all get her good and home. Beware of her wanting to fly back into his arms with one word from him. It happens all the time. Good luck.
I don’t know if the threatened video is of the embarrassing, home made porn variety, or the doing of illegal things variety, but if he’s military it might fuck him over harder than her if he releases it. Releasing revenge porn is illegal in many jurisdictions, and if it’s just video of her doing something unsavory- well if he took the video and condoned it the brass may not like that either.
I got hit by a car while riding my bicycle today. There were two cars standing still on the zebra path I was crossing, so I thought it was safe to go between them, when the second car suddenly started moving. No injuries but my back wheel is trashed.
Mom’s had arthrosis since forever (formally diagnosed at age 30); 1.SiL (6 years younger than me) has arthritis; 2.SiL (1 year younger than me) has a back so bad she’s banned from ever getting pregnant… complaining about my stupid arm in which I must have pulled a muscle back in the summer and it’s taken 6 months to stop hurting when I stretch it makes me feel like a complete wuss. It’s like whining about your cold when you’re surrounded by people with pneumonia.
Until the divorce is final, she’s still a military dependent, and that gives her certain rights. Particularly if your “son-in-law” has taken up with a woman who is also in the military (according to the UCMJ, there could be serious consequences for the other woman, and him as well, if she’s married). In any event, your daughter should consult with the base Legal services office. If she can get him documented as extorting her to get more favorable conditions for him bugging out (a recording of the threat, or something in writing), well, it’ll be no more than he has coming to him.
