You mean the way you celebrate that you “don’t have as much in the hip department as you like?” It’s always better to celebrate your shape than to hide it. Right? If that were true you would always choose the jeans that really emphasize how you have narrow hips. Except that’s not what you do. You do the exact opposite – apparently you think emphasizing the narrowness of your hips is somehow unflattering.
Some of us have more curve than we think is flattering. Is that so damn hard to comprehend???
What I meant was that my backside is on the small side, and skinny jeans make it look rounder and less flat than other styles do. They show what few curves I have instead of hiding them.
The celebrate comment was for those who think bigger girls shouldn’t wear them because they emphasize those curves…geez, mellow out.
What I am trying to say, is that from your high horse, YOU have the right to emphasize certain aspects of your form, but other women who the same thing, are self hating.
Skinny jeans don’t emphasize my curves in the sense of curvy, shapely, hourglass or any of those things. They just make my ass look wide, perched atop freakish little stubby pin-legs. And the long shirts commonly worn with skinny jeans, actually hide my waist, making me look chunky and shapeless when I’m not at all. Chunky and shapeless, just like Christina Hendricks looks in her hideously unflattering skinny jeans outfit.
My final critque of skinny jeans, is that they make your shoes look stupid. I can wear my bootcut and straightleg jeans with sneakers, loafers, heels, flipflops or anything. Skinny jeans worn with anything other than boots and maybe chucks, look absurd.
I hate them with the fire of a thousand suns. I very, very rarely see a person who looks good in them at all.
What would you call jeans that are fitted to the thighs but not to the foreleg? Not flaring, from the knee down they’re basically straight. Boot cut? I like those on me because I feel that they strike a nice balance between showing off my ass (no, I am NOT providing a cite) and hiding the huge difference between how wide I’m at the hips and what tiny feet I have.
Boot cut, which is slightly flared (very slightly in comparison to flared jeans) from the knee down to give room to wear boots under. Gives less of a dramatic look than flared while balancing hips and ankles/feet and still giving the leg some definition (which helps the butt). Measuring across the knee and ankle on my jeans shows a difference of about 1", flared IME is more dramatic and about a 2" difference, if not more.
And what about the people (like me, Diosa and others) who have said they have ample hips and like skinny jeans? I mean, by definition I’d say that wanting to minimize a feature you have is “self hating” on that feature (of course, in an extreeeeeeeeeemely mild way. I’m not saying you literally want to hack off your hips!). If you didn’t dislike their proportion, etc… you wouldn’t try to balance it out, right?
I like skinny jeans with ballet flats or knee high boots. I don’t like the way I look in anything other than those two shoes.
I am thin and not very curvy. I will wear any type of jean, except wide leg flares, I can do more form fitting flares. I have two types of skinny jean, the ones that flatter me the best I tend to wear with a form fitting sweater that hits at the hips, giving me the illusion of more curves than I actually have. The other ones I can wear with ballet flats or boots, but look better with ballet flats. If I am dressing to be more flattering, I will wear the jeans that give my body more curve. Joe’s Jeans Straight and Narrow Cigarette jeans and their classic fit are very flattering. I have a pair of Chinese Laundry jeans that I like, only the pockets are way low on the butt. My favorite is a pair of Salt Works jeans I got years ago. Perfect fit with no gap at the waist and very flattering. I tend to like a medium rise to give the illusion of more shape as well. Lower rise makes me look blocky unless I can cover it up with a longer top.
My problem is that I am in between when it comes to length. Petite are all too short and regulars are too long. I usually have to go and have them hemmed to length so that my boot heels are not tripping over the back of them and ruining the hem.
I do think that not everyone will look good in skinny jeans, but there are so many options for flattering your particular body type, work with the ones you think are best.
I work on a college campus in a large city so I see plenty of women who are able to pull off the skinny jean very well, curvier girls and thin ones.
My experience is that cheap jeans only look good on the most perfect figures while more expensive jeans can flatter you more. That or if you can afford a more expensive pant you can afford to have them tailored so you don’t get the gap at your waist and the jeans look as if they were made for you.
Hey if you think you look good rock that look and more power too you!
I would say 90% of the people I see wearing them, from near-skeletons to those of “traditional dimensions,” do not look good in them. That includes both male and female. That might be because they are trendy right now, and when something is trendy the market gets flooded with really cheap, lowgrade trendy clothes. As noted, cheap jeans usually look bad on everyone, regardless of style.
Sorry I got my knickers in a twist, one thing that can set me off is someone telling me how to feel – it ruffles my feathers when people chastise you for self-hate because you find something unflattering, while explaining what they do to minimize (what they consider) to be their unflattering features. Wanting more hips than you have, is not different in any way from wanting less hips than you have. If one is self-hating, so is the other (I disagree that either is self-hating). Basically that one poster said “well I wear X and Y to make me look curvier – curvy girls stop hating yourself by saying skinny jeans look ugly on curves.” That’s just really presumptuous, like the skinny hipped are “allowed” to feel a certain way while the wide-hipped aren’t, because they’re just so “lucky” they should be thankful.
This goes back to things like straight hair/curly hair, grass is always greener type things. I have incredibly thick, curly, red hair, that’s so coarse it cuts through the plastic parts on my vaccum like piano wire. I chemically straighten and thin it. People go blah blah blah you’re so lucky to have insanely thick, curly red hair, but they haven’t ever been me, it’s a pain in the ass and it looks prettier straight.
I really do not get this at all. (The funny thing is fashion magazines also give skinny girls advice on accentuating their curves.) The small waist/wide hips thing always has and always will look sexy.
I am not sure I’ve noticed seen anyone look particularly bad in skinny jeans. Christina Hendricks looks fine in those pics. Not as gorgeous as one of those Mad Men dresses, but still lovely.
I dislike skinny jeans for myself, if they work for someone that’s great wear what you like… What I hate is I can’t wear them.
Not just they look all wrong on me but the last time I tried them on I almost had to buy them because we were thisclose to having to cut them to get them off (and they were my size) I’m fairly curvy (tall, plump and my thighs need some work but my calves are really quite curvy and shapely IMO despite being bigger though in proportion) and combine that with high arches/big feet… Well that cut means I need a shoehorn to get them off, or at least another person!
If it suits and you can work it, go for it. I just can’t.
I never called anyone self hating and I think you might be projecting the high horse just a bit.
Let me try this again:
I think it would be rude to tell anyone that they shouldn’t wear something. If a pair of jeans make you feel good about your body you should wear them with pride no matter what anyone else thinks.
As for you, if you hate them then just don’t wear them problem solved.
yeah see, there’s the communication breakdown. What I actually meant was hey onlookers, don’t judge a big hipped girl for wearing skinny jeans, if she feels good in them what do you care?
I like the way they look but have yet to invest in them. For the small and curvies-supposedly Aeropostale Bayla jeans work really well for us (per the short and curvy stylista…you can google your way to her blog). Here’s the link: http://www.styleklutz.com/2008/11/skinny-jeans-for-curvy-girl.html. I think she looks great, though I would have added boots with heels on account of the height, but that’s just my preference and Napoleon complex talking.
I don’t know if I’ll ever get them…I mean, honestly, I’m 10 pounds away from my pre business school size and between skinny jeans and a pair of Joe’s Honey, I’d rather spend the money on a pair of Joe’s Honey jeans. At 31 I feel less inclined to jump on every trend and more likely to choose silhouettes and lines that I think are flattering and sophisticated (though I think super darkstone/black skinny jeans in boots look awesome). Hell…I even took all the layers out of my hair and have an old school 60s haircut now and I get tons of compliments just for looking a little different.
It’s personally offensive to me when people suggest that the majority of humans ‘shouldn’t wear’ and ‘look awful in’ articles of clothing that show their natural shape. I’m learning that a lot of people think all people’s bodies should be camouflaged and ‘balanced’ at all times, and that people (well, women, mostly) who choose to show their bodies are attacked and even considered visually offensive by many.
It’s been a reasonable assumption so far in my life that those who judge other people’s bodies and clothing choices the most harshly (I don’t mean nasty insulting language necessarily - I mean having the temerity to proclaim that someone ‘shouldn’t’ wear body-con, tight, or revealing clothes because you don’t like seeing the shape of their body) have plenty of body and self-esteem issues of their own.
I think you are confusing “body fitting” with “a particular style of body fitting.” you’re being very simplistic about how clothes sit on the human body. On a dress, for example, you can have an empire waist that’s form fitting, a “natural” waist that’s form fitting, and a dropped waist that’s form fitting, but all do not flatter every person equally. Different fabrics sit on the body differently, some more flattering than others on different people to to their “drape” or way of sitting on the body. According to you anything other than a Star Trek jumpsuit is a form of self-hate, and I think we can all agree, it’s not.
My boot cut jeans are form fitting, thank you very much.
And I deny that the vast lumps of saggy fabric disguising Christina Hendricks’ waist are “form fitting” or “show her natural shape.” To the the contrary, they are hiding it in an unflattering way.
Hello Again, I don’t think people who don’t wear revealing/fitted/whatever clothes hate themselves. I think people who seem (to me) overly invested in what other people’s bodies look like and how what they wear makes them look usually have deeper issues, often with their own bodies and self-esteem.
What’s ‘flattering’ in terms of clothing is mostly a matter of personal opinion. You bring up empire waists; I don’t like them very much on myself as I prefer clothing that outlines my natural shape (which happens to be very broad shoulders, small ribcage and waist, broader again in the hips) and I feel that tops that are loose in the waist make me look boyish -as someone who’s flat-chested and skinny, this is what I strive to avoid. However whenever I wear the few items with unbelted empire waist I have, I get more compliments than usual… even though I look much more straight-up-and-down. A lot of women want to look more straight-up-and-down I think. Most women I know seem to dislike the natural, feminine shape of their hips.
Anyway this thread is about skinny jeans, which brings me back to my original point: your bootcut jeans of whatever brand are probably also manufactured in a ‘skinny’ cut, which would fit you exactly the same from the knee up. Based on this I think you dislike it when you can see, when a lady is wearing jeans, that she has small calves, larger thighs, and wider hips compared to her legs. And I think that’s kind of messed up. Since you describe your own body very harshly in tapered jeans as ‘ass wide… atop freakish little stubby pin-legs’ I think your own issues with your body are at play here - you don’t like it when other women look like you do in jeans with tapered legs. Personally I think it looks fantastic when a woman is wearing jeans that contrast her her wide hips and bigger thighs with her smaller lower legs and feet. A lot of that is because I like these features on my own body, I admit.
ETA: As for Christina Hendricks, I don’t think the outfit in the other thread is the most wonderful she’s ever worn, but this thread is about skinny jeans. Do you think her outfit is unflattering from the hips down, ignoring her t and zip-up hoodie?