Fat people wearing clothes they really shouldn't

The BBQ Pit
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I have no problem with fat people under normal conditions.

However, I have a problem with fat people who just don’t seem to notice that perhaps the clothes they’re wearing is perhaps a few sizes smaller than what their size is… well, maybe more than a few. I know that finding clothes when you’re fat is hard to do, having been in that situation a long time ago. But don’t wear belly shirts that were obviously meant for girls 100 pounds lighter. It does not look good on you. I don’t want to see a gut protruding 3 inches from where the shirt ends. It’s really gross, and I don’t think anyone wants to see that.

I know it’s hard for fat people to find clothes in their size. But don’t choose shirts and pants that are clearly not anywhere near your size, for god’s sake!

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Is it time for a fat thread again, already? I hadn’t noticed how late it was getting.

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Yeah yeah yeah . . .

You know, this isn’t a fat people issue, it’s an inappropriate fashion issue. And it afflicts many types of people, not just fat people. The highwater pants, the ugly shoes, the wearing clothes that are too “young” or too “old” for you, and so on.

And sometimes it’s a judgment call. Some people might find a fat person wearing anything other than a large, loose voluminous tent to be inapproriate, because really, who wants to see any of their fat “disgusting” body? Others might think, show it off, baby! You’ve got more curves, don’t be afraid to hide them!

Or, another example would be women with smaller breasts wearing tight-fitting tops or low-cut tops. Who wants to see their flat “nothing” chests? Well, that’s a judgment call. It’s not for just one person, with one particular set of tastes to decide. Some people might find a small-breasted woman wearing a tight top to be a major hottie, while others might find her flat chest to be lamentable. Who gets to decide?

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The lable said loose fit!

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Thank you Yosemite, for your insightful post! I have a new understanding on the matter :slight_smile:

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Did this thread really just resolve itself? In three posts? Is this a new record?

I’m damned impressed.

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Me too. :slight_smile:

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Wow. Way to go, Yosemite.

Now let’s just hope everyone reads the entire thread and not just the OP so that this doesn’t evolve into a trainwreck.

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This thread is now a great gift.

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Who gets to decide? Smart people. When I was about 20 I was seeing a woman who had the chest of a teenage boy. Not knowing what to do I just treated her breasts as though they were 36Bs (I’m guessing here) because that was what I knew. I can still remember how happy she was, and how happy she made me, decades later.

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Another thing to consider would be people in my situation. Over the last year and a half I’ve put on about twenty pounds, most of it apparently settling on my butt and thighs. As a result most of my pants are, to put it mildly, a bit snug. I could go buy 5-6 pairs of pants in my new, larger, size, but I don’t want to for two reasons. First, I am determined to lose the extra weight (and hopefully more) and have taken the appropriate steps, and see no point in spending extra money on clothes that I hope not to be wearing for long. Second, going up another size means going from a 48 waist to a 50 waist, a psychological threshhold I would prefer not to cross. So until I either lose the extra weight or admit to myself that I can’t do it (a point I hope not to reach) I’m going to put up with looking like an overstuffed sausage and hope I don’t pop a button off another pair of pants like I did last week.

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I have a friend who enjoys seeing a guy’s ass-crack peek out over the back of his jeans. He thinks that’s sexy. I don’t.

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I almost created a new thread in the Pit about something relative to this, just this week.

Having a brand new baby nephew who’s just graced the world with his presence, off to the mall I went for a cute gift from Aunty Cheeky. My goal was something from Baby Gap. I usually buy my clothing on the net or in catalogs, because I hate the pushy sales’ people at the mall. Other than that, you can find me at Walmart for house stuff and pet supplies, or at the grocery store.

Spring is coming up, so just for the hell of it, I browse the stores for something for myself, to freshen up the wardrobe. And I need a new pair of dress shoes also.

All the pants I see are low-riders ~ tight at the thighs and flared at the bottom. Wonderful. I would need the exact opposite. High-riders, looser at the thighs, and tighter at the bottom. I have a tummy, my thighs are a disgrace, but from the knees down, my legs are enviable. Skirts would work well, but not low-rider ones, and is it possible to find one that doesn’t have cargo pockets emphasizing exactly what I don’t want people’s eyes drawn to? No can do. Fine.

So what about some tops? Everything I see has at least 5% of lycra in it, so that when you pull it over your head, it stretches around the contours of your body. Just what I need!!! NOT! Ok, well shoes will be no problem (especially since my clothing budget has loosened up from not finding any clothes that would look decent on me, forget flatter me.)

Those pointy shoes are IN, in a big way. The kind I wore in grade 8. Though I have a wide medatarsal, which invariably stretches the shoe to hell distorting the original look, I did love them back in 1984. It’s the same style with one exception. In 1984, they were flats. Everyone had them in white and black, sometimes with a big buckle on the ramp. What’s changed? They now come with a 4" stilletto heel! First off, I’m 5’11". I don’t mind being 6’3" with shoes on, but let’s just say I haven’t had much practice or need for it. And heels isn’t a problem, I can pull it off. But stillettos? There’s an art to wearing those. I would need a chunkier heel for the support. Let’s not get into how much shit my neurosurgeon, who performed back surgery on me, would give me if he saw me in those things. Not smart for a bad back.

Not content with a baseball cap in a GAP bag, I’m intent on finding more stuff for the baby. But I’m famished. So I get myself a souvlaki at my favourite Greek eatery, and sit down to contemplate a complimentary purchase to the cap. I see one painfully skinny woman in her early twenties walk by. Not skinny like model skinny. Skinny like it hurts to look at her, and you feel bad that she can’t put on weight. Oddly enough, she’s got a super-sized portion of fries on her plate and a double cheeseburger.

But then I see another one. Another woman, so skinny that you think her bones must hurt her skin when she sits down. And another one. And another one. I think to myself, “What the fuck? Is it Anorexic’s Day Out?” Please don’t think that I’m insensitive to the disease; I’m not. But it struck me so strange to see SO many people who looked positively ill and undernourished, in the same relatively confined area. The food court no less!

Here’s the twist. They were all wearing very up-to-date fashionable clothing. They had the tight shirts on. They had the low-riders (which looked great on them). They wore stilletto shoes with the same ease as I go barefoot. Later that evening, I was on the phone with my friend who was asking what I got at the mall. I related this story to her.

She says, “You know what your problem is? You’re not out at the mall too much. It’s not new. It’s been like this for a while now. It is hard to watch them, because you feel sorry for them. But I have my own idea of why they’re like that. They’re at the age where they’re very conscious of their appearances, and they are doing anything and everything to be in style. That’s why they’re that thin. You walk out of a store, disappointed there’s nothing for you. They walk out of the store devastated that they can’t keep up.”

So … I’ll go to the groceries today, with my Levis and a loose sweater on. They’re waking up with hangovers from Friday night’s clubbing. They just have enough time to wake up, shower, hit the mall for tonight’s outfit and get back on Crescent street, where it will all happen all over again.

I’m not sure who’s to blame. Probably the fashion industry. But these people who starve themselves to fit into what’s being proposed aren’t helping either. I refuse to buy clothes that look terrible on me, so I’ll wait this ‘fad’ out. Problem is, it’s been the ‘fad’ now for quite a while, and I find myself on the outskirts of being fashionable. The alternative, however, is not conceivable.

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Ah, I don’t know. I think that there is a difference between fashion sense victims who obviously don’t own a mirror, or don’t use one before buying clothes to wear, and those who look like giant frankfurters, and look as though the butcher tried to stuff 5 pounds of sausage meat into a one pound casing. It’s those people I scratch my head at.

Logic.

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Cheeky, I work at a store which still sells high waisted tapered pants and jeans. There are some stores which still sell them. Not many, though.

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It depends on attitude.

I see a lot of young women, who are chunkier, and go for the gusto as far as tight fashionable clothing is concerned. Latinas are noteable, in this respect. I admire them. I could never do it. We both look like shit. Me with my Levis and loose sweater. Them with their belly shirts that reveal a roll of fat. But they’re determined and they love their bodies. I don’t love my body as much as they love theirs. In the end, I think their attitude is healthier.

Take JLo for example, who I think is one of the hottest women in showbiz. How many jokes are there about JLo’s ass? I’m not sure if I could take the same heat. I’ll tell you something, I’d rather her ass than mine. Mine just goes almost straight down. Real white girl’s ass. JLo certainly has the money for lipo. She is a healthy looking woman. She accepts what she has and goes with it. And that self-confidence is more conducive to her overall appearance than her ass is a deterent.

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Wouldn’t happen to be a store in Canada, would it? :smiley: You tell me Montreal and you have a huge commission coming to ya TODAY! LOL

Yes, I know they’re available. And I don’t know if you mean high-waisted as in at my waist (which is what I like), or high-waisted as in just below my rib (which is another problem, considering I’m 5’11"). In the end, I always find something that fits just about right. The problem is, I never look “in style”. I look well put together, if I try hard enough, but never “in style”. I come off looking way more conservative than I really am, or way more eclectic.

Thank G-d I have a good hairdresser! In that respect, at least I can keep up.

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Well, if you’re looking for high-waisted tapered pants, it’s no wonder you never look “in style!” This suggests that you aren’t absorbing the basic overall changes in fashion. I’m not suggesting that you buy “trendy” clothes, but I suggest that you pay more attention to the way that basic silhouettes have changed. Tapered jeans were fashionable 15 years ago. By the early-to-mid-90s, tapered jeans weren’t fashionable anymore–people were wearing straight-legs. At this point, flares are fashionable, straight legs aren’t really “in,” but they’re classic at least, and tapered jeans are an egregious fashion sin of the highest order. Plus, they totally emphasize big thighs and hips. <hurriedly puts on flame-proof suit>

As for fat people wearing clothes that they really shouldn’t–One unfortunate by-product of the belly-shirt/low rider trend is that I often see women who definitely aren’t fat, but who look really lumpy when they’re wearing this combo. A lot of women would be considered “thin” if they were wearing something more modest, but this outfit shows that they are really pretty flabby around the middle.

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And you know he was just thrilled about this, especially when she would touch it. :wink:

Seriously, where in all the rules of social conduct does it give anyone the license to decide what other people must do or refrain from doing.

I see this in the gay threads, I see it in the religion threads, I see it in Café Society threads about movies or music, I see it in Pit threads about stuff ranging from driving habits to this topic.

No, I find the man with an ass that resembles the Graf Zeppelin and Hindenburg flying a tight formation to be repulsive. But he’s a human being, the same as I am, with the right to go where he lists, do what he enjoys, and wear what he feels comfortable. The world was not put here exclusively for my viewing pleasure. And it wasn’t for yours either.

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Green Bean is right, Cheeky Monkey. Straight legs are much more flattering. When I worked at a jeans store we called those super-tapered pants “old lady jeans”. Our impression of women who wore tapered leg jeans religiously was… unflattering.