Don’t know if this has been posted before.
A very good friend of mine recently lost his 31-year old son. They found him on the bathroom floor. He was gone, just like that.
Question is: Would you prefer a slow death or a quick, sudden one?
If you die suddenly and quickly, it’s less pain, over a shorter period of time…not only for you, but for your family/friends as well. They don’t have to watch your slow decline, as you proceed to lose control of yourself. They don’t have to see your tragic transformation into someone who becomes completely unrecognizable. Another advantage is that you really don’t have time to ruminate over death, or to fear it, as it just happens instantly, without warning.
However, if you choose to die from a sickness or injury over a period of weeks or months, you get the major advantage of being able to take care of your affairs, and plan so that your family has it easier when you’re gone. You also have the opportunity to say goodbye to those you love, and leave no sentiment, good or bad, unexpressed. And you can make more happy memories. Finally, you may have the chance to make peace with your coming death. But then you have to wait until it happens, and deal with the pain until it does.
Do you really want to “hang on” so long that you just become a burden? Before you say “well, MY family would never think of me as a burden”, consider all the hospital visits, logistical arrangements, costs of care involved with dealing with someone with a terminal illness. If you had a terminal illness, you would be a burden. One they can’t get rid of, one that is keeping them from enjoying their own lives. By this logic, you’re stealing life from them, that they can’t get back. Life that is spent caring for your deteriorating self.