Its one of the things that drives me nuts - for ages girls were expected to identify with male characters as the drivers of stories. Then we started giving them very girly archetypes to identify with (Cinderella). Now there are tons of active female characters (including Dora) and even the more recent Disney princesses are less passive - which is great for girls, but boys aren’t being encouraged to identify with them, even though young boys easily will, and older boys will if they aren’t discouraged (my ten year old son thinks Kim Possible rocks).
Part of it is merchandising. There isn’t boy Dora underwear or girl Diego stuff. But part of it is us forcing gender identification on kids.
I’m genuinely curious in your explanation of this - if the Dora blanket is the one HE chooses, how are we teaching him to be effeminate? If anything, since it was his choice and his idea, why wouldn’t it just mean that he hasn’t made the distinction between what’s considered ‘boy’ and ‘girl’?
And for those who are interested - we went to school this morning with his blankie, and apparently, he’s not the only little boy with a Dora blanket .
I’m curious, too. It’s not like you’re buying him a Dora blanket and trying to teach him that boys can play with dolls and girls can play with trucks. You’re just buying him what he requested.