My 20 year old son has been at loose ends for some time now. He lives with his mother and is an intelligent young man, but has been heavily addicted (and I do mean addicted in the most serious sense) to online gaming for some time now. This destroyed his high school grades (he barely graduated) and he flamed out of community college after 3 semesters. He’s been sitting around at his mother’s house for the better part of a year now since leaving community college, and sheltered under her wing, is effectively a 24-7 gamer.
He has never held a paying job. I have sat down with him at my office for a week at a time and walked him through the resume creation, and job search process, and had him go to various businesses and fill out applications, however the instant he goes back to his mothers house there is no follow up by him. He lets his cell discharge, does not follow up with any employers and goes back to gaming all day. As of yesterday per the Verizon bill (I pay for his phone) he had not used his cell phone at all for over two months.
Having said all this he is an earnest young man he knows he has a serious problem, and I believe him when he says he really wants to change, he’s just stuck in a loop of very bad habits. He’s not overweight and is an Eagle Scout so he should be able to meet the physical challenges.
We went to the recruiters office today and talked with the Army, Air Force and Navy Recruiters. They were professional, but their attitude is not all that eager for new recruits as the services are all full up. They indicated that once you sign up and are accepted there would probably be a 6-12 month wait before you could attend boot camp, and if you want to move forward you had best be prepared to take whatever your testing indicates that they can use you for. Recruitment bonuses are apparently a thing of the past in the current economy unless you can speak Farsi, are adept enough at math and engineering to qualify to be be nuclear power tech, or have the inhuman stamina and focus necessary to be special forces solider.
I’m kind of leaning toward the Navy or Air Force as I would prefer to minimize his chances of getting shot. No one gave us any literature, they all said just to check the website for their service for any and all info. They are not eager for bodies these days, if anything they were the opposite. The impression I got was that they really do not want you unless you really, really want to be in their service.
He’s supposed to be checking the websites tonight. We’ll see how it goes.