Forgive me if this is long, but I figured this would be a good place to vent.
A few years ago, my grandmother died from a long term illness. Grandma was not a nice lady-- she was physically and mentally abusive, an alcoholic, and just a generally crappy person. Hell, as soon as I was more or less an adult, she started trying to push me around, literally and figuratively. Pretty quickly, I realized how awful she was and more or less stopped contact with her. While some people would continue contact out of a family obligation, I wasn’t about to let my life be brought down by terrible people.
When she died, nobody called me. In fact, I found out by seeing a Facebook post from a friend of a step cousin on somebody’s wall. I called my uncle, the only other child besides my mom and a lifetime mama’s boy, and asked if it was true. . . then he blew up on me demanding to know why I even cared, etc. So, that ended my relationship with my uncle. Again, why have relationships with shitty people?
I never received anything from the estate-- not the momentos that had been promised to me my entire life nor the jewelry that was supposed to come down to me either. Uncle kept telling my mom he was going to send it to me, but it never came. I didn’t care. I mean, I don’t want anything from these people, so even if it’s just on principle, they can have the stuff. I don’t need all that bad mojo flying around my house anyway.
Fast forward to a week and a half ago. I received a 60 page complaint from GMAC, naming me as someone liable for her mortgage-- $165,000 and if I don’t respond within 30 days, they’ll get a default judgment against me for that amount. After calling and badgering various family members that I do speak to, it was brought to my attention that uncle didn’t exactly handle the death properly. He handled everything, telling my sweet and frankly somewhat simple mom he had it all taken care of. What did he do? There was no will, he never entered into probate— instead, he had an estate sale, left the keys on the counter, called GMAC and said he was walking. Now, when all of this came to light last week, he told my mom that GMAC told him that was fine, he wasn’t liable for that debt. This says to me either he’s stupid or lying.
My mom was served, my uncle was served, I was served, and so was my very young ( <7) niece. My mom called the law firm on the paperwork (which, when you do, by the way, announces loudly that it is a debt collection firm), spoke to a lawyer, and he told her he was going to send over some piece of paper that absolved her of all claims to the house— telling her this is just a formality so we can’t come back later and say they sold our rightful property. I called and left this guy a voicemail, but he never got back to me.
Anyway, our company has an attorney on staff, but she isn’t familiar enough with this kind of law to really advise me with much more than that I must respond. So, now I get to retain a lawyer. I’m 26 years old-- I don’t know what kind of attorney I need, how to find a good attorney in that field, or how much I’m going to have to pay for this. My uncle told my mom he’d pay any of our legal fees, but needless to say, I don’t believe him.
What angers me most about this is that I intentionally washed my hands of this woman and all of her insanity. . . yet she’s managing to haunt me from beyond the grave. Like I said, I know I need an attorney, but this is all just so freaking complicated and ridiculous— all for this awful woman who, frankly, I was more relieved by her death than upset.
This is why I don’t talk to my family. Jesus Christ.