In hindsight, my previous post may be a little strongly worded for the forum. I apologise.
I have plenty of friends with Facebook friends numbering in the high hundreds . . . I didn’t use Facebook in undergrad, but if I had, and I’d friended everyone I’d ever had some kind of contact with, my number of friends would easily be similar.
Judging someone based on the number of Facebook friends they have? Really?
Facebook isn’t really like MySpace in that way, though. There aren’t really very many bands or actors who have created a “professional” Facebook profile; it’s individuals to a very large degree.
I had to look up my friends before commenting on this thread. After checking I am at 448. I met most of the people that I am “friends” with at school through Student Senate and Intramurals. Everyone else is mostly random acquaintances from HS and people who happen to be friends with my actual friends. Its not really the best indication of how much I party or get laid though.
You’re probably going to want to lay off being so judgemental of your brother’s girlfriends. It’s not like you have any say in who he dates, is it? He’s going to date who he dates.
You are aware that evaluating a person’s character based on a social site web page is itself not normal, right? And that just because everyone you know lives or behaves a certain way, does not make that way “normal”?
Perhaps, yes indeed. Perhaps.
How old are these people? In general the younger you are, the more Facebook friends you have. I’m 35 years old and I have about 60, just as a casual user. And those are just people I know from work or school or wherever. A lot of people from my high school and college graduating classes don’t use Facebook. Had I gone to school while Facebook was popular, I could easily imagine adding another hundred or more people who I’m acquainted with.
I use LinkedIn for my professional network and I know guys like headhunters or sales people who have thousands of contacts. I would imagine they send link requests to EVERYONE. Friends, family, their entire class, everyone they ever work with, members of professional groups, everyone.
There gets to be a point where you are just collecting business cards so to speak, not developing connections. If you have 700 “friends”, you really can’t maintain most of them as legitimate relationships.
Geez Cazzle, I’m not shunning anyone, they’ve just started dating… and checking someone’s online, publicly-available profile is hardly considered “stalking”.
Based on other people’s reactions, I guess I am being hasty. But that’s the whole reason I asked! In my world, the people with the most inflated social networks are the people I know as party animals and always out and about and looking for the next gathering. And, if I had to pick someone for my bro, I’d pick someone studious and clever and a little less “scene” oriented… so when I checked her profile, and I saw “777 friends”, I thought, oh sheesh, another social butterfly. It also doesn’t help that her only pictures seem to be her at parties.
I’ll try to be a little less judgemental…
See? Now that makes some sense…
Can you define parties?
And… why is the profile you gave what you think would be best for him? Sometimes opposites attract and as long as a few other things are in line… it can work. Compatibility’s an odd thing…
Anecdote: A coworker had a myspace page. To look at what HE said, he seemed safe enough. To look at who he friended, what they said, stuff like that… you had a much different (and clearer) vision of what he was up to.
Even so… I feel funny profiling anyone off of just a little bit of information…
NightRabbit, for the love of God man; I think this is one aspect of your brother’s life you can stay out of. You remind me of that mother on “Everybody Loves Raymond”
Jeez…