So, my brother’s dating a new girl, and I looked her up on facebook (of course). While she seems otherwise normal, I did notice that she has 777 “friends”.
Now, perhaps I’m being a bit judgmental because he’s my baby brother and I want to see him with a nice, smart, beautiful, NORMAL, perfect woman, but I don’t know if I can understand how someone racks up 777 friends on facebook unless they “get around”, so to speak, and party constantly.
I have about 150 friends linked on facebook, many of whom I don’t really talk to anymore.
Honestly, I’m now mentally writing this girl off as a completely shallow “party girl” based on this ridiculously inflated number of “facebook friends”. In my world, this is anything but normal. In fact, I’ve found that, in my experience, if someone has over 500 friends on facebook/myspace/etc., the more flighty and shallow and immature they tend to be. But perhaps I’m being hasty.
Can someone explain to me how someone can acquire over 700 facebook pals without being a constant partier and hook-up artist?
Many people friend people they barely know. You realize there is no requirement to actually talk to someone in real life before friending them on Facebook, right?
For example, I only have about 100 friends on Facebook. But I also have exactly one “online” friend included in that total. The rest are people I know from school and work and such.
A friend of mine has over 1,000 friends, and he’s one of the least shallow people I know. He’s an extremely social person and networks a lot.
I don’t use facebook, but if it’s like myspace, lots of people will ask to be put on your friends list. Some you know, most you don’t. If she doesn’t want to be mean and refuse, I can easily see her racking up a lot of “friends.”
Yeah, I know people who just have a habit of adding everyone they can. “Hey, I saw him at that party! I think he knows that girl who I had a conversation with at the bus-stop!” It’s especially easy if you look at lots of tagged photos.
My friend just got into Facebook, and had over 150 friend invites the first day he was online. Why?
Because he put down in his profile that he’s Australian and into Hockey. So everyone who’s interested in that sort of hobby has just looked it up and friend-requested him.
I have slightly over 420 friends on Facebook. This includes such people as my closest friends, classmates from elementary and middle school in Finland, classmates from high school in Texas, classmates from high school and university in Finland again, people who I know from my hobbies and organizations I belong to, and my music instructor. Among others. I certainly don’t friend request every person I’ve ever met casually; if I did that, my friend count would probably be somewhere in the 1000 range right now. I’m just a very social person with a wide circle of friends and acquaintances.
I don’t really see that someone with 777 friends “gets around” (because I certainly don’t, much to my chagrin). If I were inclined to base my views on a person solely on their Facebook account, I would pay much more attention to things like the amount of inane applications they have added, the percentage of their pictures that show them staggering around in a drunken stupor or with their tongue stuck in someone’s throat, or what people write on their Wall.
My sister is in PR, she has over 1000 Facebook “friends”.
Networking is her job, as is having a finger on the pulse of every new craze, every hot party and having a little black book full of “names” she can rely on to a appear at an event she is organising.
You don’t get that by just listing your old High School friends.
You don’t have to be a party animal to have a lot of Facebook friends. In fact, being hermit who never moves away from the keyboard could probably result in more online “pals” than someone who gets out and has a life.
I love this bit! A passing acquaintance who “seems otherwise normal” has lots of friends on a social networking site, and that makes her a “party girl” and a “hook up artist”, not to mention “flighty”, “shallow,” and “immature,” and someone to be “written off” without further consideration. Yes, the word “shallow” definitely comes to mind when talking about shunning a sibling’s new girlfriend over the number of friends she has on Facebook. Good on you NightRabbit! You take a stand and teach that little slut not to have an inappropriate number of acquaintances!
One of my friends has 1175 friends on facebook, partially because he ran for president at my college and met everyone he could (and partially because he is just a very social person).
I have 320 friends on facebook, and at least 100 are friends from high school and junior high school I haven’t talked to in years. I mainly friended them (or accepted their friend request) because I was curious what they were like now, and how cool or dorky or hot or ugly they’ve become.
Like any online profile, facebook only gives you a very superficial overview of a person. Having 777 friends doesn’t really tell you much other than that she has friended a lot of people on facebook.
Though obvious, it should probably be said that all other things being equal, having a large number of facebook friends does correlate with shallow socialite-ness. But as others have said, the number alone is far too flimsy to go on.
With all due respect you sound a lot more like his mother than his sister. Isn’t it kind of weird to be doing backround checks on your brother’s girlfriend choices? Does he tolerate this ?
I only have about a dozen friends on Facebook, so someone that has 150 is just as much a whore to me as someone with 777.
Because that’s really what you’re saying right?
I’ve met a lot of people who collect friends on Facebook by friending anyone they’ve ever met. It’s annoying, but it’s not weird (or even all that difficult on Facebook).
I’m not really into Myspace, but I know that “friends” can be anything. For instance, if a celebrity you like has a page, you can request to be their friend so that you can post comments on their page and all, but it doesn’t mean you know them. If you look at celebrity Myspace pages, they typically have thousands of “friends.” This girl might have all her favorite bands and actors listed as friends. She might friend-request every page she comes across that looks interesting, or she might just be approving requests from lots of people that look at her page.
