I’m not even going to tell you the gross stuff I used to tolerate from the ex-husband. For one thing, I’m embarrassed to have actually lived with it, and for another, it was far from our only problem.
Current husband doesn’t really do anything bothersome, but if he did I would try to nip it in the bud with a nice friendly, “EWWWWW! That is nasty.”
I’m sorry. Not really onto the floor, like in our house or anything. See, that was the thing, my dad is and was a HUGE neat freak. You could eat off the floor in our house.
I meant when he was out and about, onto the ground. Not entirely better, but much better than the impression.
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Why don’t you moisturize his feet? They’ll be quieter, and he’ll probably enjoy it.
Is this for real? If so, this has become the equivalent of the old Ann Landers advice “show him this column to let him know how you feel.”
Great username/post content combination. 
Ha! Okay, it wasn’t that bad. 
I am currently dealing with this with my boyfriend. He spits all the time and blows his nose loudly everywhere, including at the dinner table and in front of others. I honestly wouldn’t care about the last if he didn’t sound like a dying elephant while doing it.
I don’t really know how to approach him about it. I feel like it is just really bad manners. I’ve talked to him about the constant spitting and that I think it’s gross, but he said he has really bad allergies/nasal drip going on and can’t help it. The other day we were sitting outside on a restaurant patio and he spit right toward someone else’s table while they were eating and I almost died. I mean, really?
Honestly, it does drive me crazy and really embarrasses me in public. I don’t know how much is a difference in upbringing or me just being too sensitive about what others think. I feel like a snob even caring about it as he’s a pretty great partner otherwise (and I’m sure I have gross habits I’m unaware of), but he’s a professional adult - I feel like there should be a little more self-awareness there or at least a basic courtesy toward others.
I say, “What the hell is wrong with you? Were you born in a barn?” and my husband says (essentially) the same thing to me.
We’re each other’s first line of defense for nipping bad habits in the bud before they’re so ingrained that they show up in public, so I’d be pissed if he didn’t say something.
(Now, I still do awful things occasionally, but I apologize in advance and recognize them as awful. I’d hate to, say, get used to licking a plate, though I’ve done it a few times.)
We try to keep each other’s bad habits under control while in public. At home, anything goes. If one of use is looking/sounding particularly gross, the other will make a comment along the lines of “damn, we really are married, huh?”
We don’t really have a problem with each other’s bad habits. Some of it is being married and sharing a bathroom for 20 years, some is not having kids we have to set a good example for, some is neither of us being delicate flowers about bodily issues, and some is just getting older and our bodies being more inclined to producing larger quantities of gross stuff. I’d be in a sorry state if I ever had to date again and learn to rein it all back.
My ex boyfriend used flatulance as a weapon. He would fart on me, or in my general area and then walk away. I broke up with him because of something else though.
My current boyfriend has a very disgusting habit. He always looks at his snot in the tissue after he blows his nose. I can understand taking a quick look, but be discrete about it. It’s disgusting.
Esophageal pouch. I’ve got one too. You eat stuff but occasionally something gets into the pouch - usually something that hasn’t been properly chewed or if you’re eating too fast. It can be deliberately or inadvertently regurgitated, undigested. I first noticed it myself as a kid with some marshmallows that reappeared a couple of hours after I’d eaten them, but my parents say that when I was a baby they once fed me rice, then chicken stew, then I barfed up some clean rice, which is how they knew. It is less gross than it sounds, as the food is virtually unbesmirched, and hasn’t come into contact with the stomach. I wouldn’t personally ruminate it in public, however.
You know, Jesus was born in a barn
I think you’re more than justified in being upset about this, especially spitting in front of others. That is just gross and really bad manners.
Wow, she just blows you right out the front door? :eek:
You shouldn’t have to be afraid to tell them something grosses you out (my wife has no problem telling me), but after a certain point you just sort of become immune to it and learn to live with it. I don’t know if I could handle a partner who ruminates food, though.That is just digusting.
My partner has a toenail-picking thing. Clipping them in front of me wouldn’t be an issue at all - I don’t hide away when I’m cutting mine, and in fact we must have a pair of clippers for each individual nail, scattered around the house in an effort to avoid that tooth-itchy picking. I’ve been complaining about it for ten years. It has improved slightly.
Though actually it may not count for this thread; it’s not that I find it too gross, more that it nauseates me in an irrational way. But my advice would be to talk to your partner - if you can’t even mention to them that they’re making you want to vomit, how is your relationship going to survive?!
Maybe she braces herself & pulls both triggers?
What’s that exactly ? He scrapes off the crud under his toenails and smells it ?
My wife has to “examine” her toilet paper immediately after she wipes. When questioned about the habit, she blamed her mother who has the same habit.