Horray! Horray! She’s going. She’s leaving. She’s gonna be gone!
The pathetic thing is that rather than asking her to leave, I chose the passive agressive route and after almost 2 years of me being totally obnoxious - SHE’S LEAVING!
I’m so very, very excited.
Although, I must say, it’s a little dishartening to know that despite the fact that at my job I can metaphorically kick peoples asses up, down, left, right and sideways, here at home the only thing I could come up with was being obnoxious and doing things that I know she can’t stand.
I know. I’m pathetic.
But did I mention that SHE’S LEAVING!?!?!? :):D:):D:)
Whoa, wait a second. Are you saying that almost TWO YEARS after you wrote about how you wanted this chica gone from your house, you finally got her to leave?
alice, honey, you need to grow a spine. I’ve been reading your posts for years and never would I have thought you’d need to hear that, but two years? And here I was thinking thirty days was a reasonable amount of time!
<Dr. Phil>Oh, come on. No one can abuse you or your property without your permission. If for two years you’ve allowed her behavior to continue, I’d have to wonder what *your * issues are, not hers. <Dr.Phil>
Well, I’m glad you’re losing your pain in the ass, anyway.
I KNOW! I’m a pathetic wimp! It’s quite alarming. However, as I mentioned at work I can get shit done.
Also, in my own defense, she had told multiple people (including my mom :eek: ) about all the stuff she stole from previous roommates who had kicked her out. I also know that she tried to contact the company of one former roommate to have her fired. Basically, the chick is a wacko.
So I acted totally obnoxious for 2 years, and now she’s going.
I don’t care that it took this long, 'cus now she’s GONE! wOOt!
She took me out to dinner to tell me because she was afraid I would be really upset and wanted to soften the blow. I just sat their shwanking my sushi trying to look sad.
Also, she’s paying me for 2 months, even though she’s going to be gone by the middle of Oct - she has nothing to move so it won’t take any time at all.
You know why people act passive-agressively folks? Cus eventually, it works! :)
(P.S. Yes, I know I’m pathetic and spineless. Jellyfish have more spine than me. Plancton are firmer in their resolve. I don’t care about any of this, because SHE’S LEAVING!!!)
God I’m so happy. After one of the shittiest months of my life, finally something GREAT happens.
I have discovered the perfect grease stain remover - eucaplytus oil.
I’m not sure if you have it where you live, but it is a standard oil available in all chemists here. If you can find it, just rub some oil on the stain, then put shirt in with the rest of the washing.
It is truely micraculous how well it works.
I actually tried just about all the methods mentioned here - WD-40, adding other oil, shampoo, dishwasher detergent, really hot water, really cold water, hot and then cold water, dog turds blended with bunny urine (ok, I made that last one up).
Finally, I just threw the shirt out. I mean I think it was about $70 - after I spent more than 14 hours cleaning it I thought - Ya know, I’m making less than minimum wage for this stupid thing." and it got the heave ho.
Let’s say that, hypothetically, you had booted this girl out by, say, the beginning of March, 2003. If the rental market in Calgary is as tight as you say it is, I’m sure you could’ve had someone new in the house by… perhaps the beginning of May, let’s say - a conservative estimate. Someone paying the full $500. If evil roommate will be gone by the middle of October, that’s 17 1/2 months. That’s $3500 just in the difference between evil rent and normal rent, plus whatever losses you sustained from her damage to your belongings in the last year-and-three-quarters, plus the mental and emotional effort involved in living with this woman as well as constantly trying to drive her out.
I don’t know what to say, other than that avoiding conflict is obviously very important to you.
Don’t be Confident. Be SURE. Keep an eye on your stuff and her. After all, you yourself said how she has treated boyfriends and previous landlords. Don’t assume that she will be any different.
From your previous posts I don’t think you sill do this, but try to get an accounting of all the damage she has done. Even if you don’t charge her for any of it, you can still throw it in her face if she gives you any grief about, well, anything. And I have a feeling grief is coming. Her kindness and taking you out to dinner and all that might simply be to soften you up and keep you unsuspecting. It sounds like her pattern from previous posts.
Also, print out this thread and keep it handy for her to read. Let her see how most other folks would have handled her.
