Gee, how romantic. :rolleyes: Sounds to me as though we’re better off now with the assumption that “yes” means yes and “no” means no—stalking/sexual harassment laws and all. Gentlemen, if she really changes her mind about you, she’ll let you know. And if she doesn’t, she has wet linguine for a spine, so why would you want her? Pay a woman the compliment of assuming that she knows her own mind and doesn’t need you to second-guess her: if it’s true, she’ll be pleased with you, and if it’s false, you’re well out of it.
“Yes” means yes
“No” means yes
and “Get away from me” means “Take me, I’m yours”
Don’t you guys know this by now? Jeeze! :rolleyes:
Speaking of John Cusack movies, who saw High Fidelity? His behavior in that movie seriously freaked me out. Example: in one scene, he goes to the apartment of his ex-gf’s new bf and stands outside the window in the pouring rain calling from a pay phone (and yes, she sees him). This is the first of a few incidents that would have had me calling the police.
Or maybe I am paranoid.
I had a girl friend get real ticked off at me once and split. Then for the next several weeks I got a whole bunch of hang-ups on my phone – usually starting when she got off from work. On party nights - Fri, Sat, and sometimes, Sun, I got calls from bars – with no one on the line.
I got a kick out of it.
One night my car got egged. No big deal 'cause I drove a wreck and just hosed it off.
I lived in an apartment right close to the road, and when I did not respond, in the middle of the night, now and then a car would pull up, hit my window with the brights, beep the horn and split.
A week later, she settled down and called me up to talk. We became a couple again, until we broke up for good much later. I still get a kick out of picturing her throwing eggs at my car from the road, crocked, with her girlfriend hanging on to her skirts to keep her from falling out of the window.
I didn’t consider that stalking.
What the hell is it about you and the women you date? (noting other thread as well)
Mayor Quimby, that was funny, see below!
BWAHAHAHA
For just about the first time in a GD, I totally fail to see the issue.
If you’re told in no uncertain terms that a girl doesn’t want to see you then… (deep breath…)
leave. her. alone.
Just a few years ago my sister broke up with a guy. She is a very good judge of character; I actually quite liked this guy whilst she was dating him. But when she broke it off with him, for some bizarre reason he decided that he would ‘pursue’ her. Now this consisted of nothing more than telephone calls and visits but it still freaked her out and it freaked me out:[ul]
[li]This was a big guy. If your ex-gf suddenly decided in a one on one confrontation that she wasn’t going to take ‘no’ for an answer then she would find it difficult to overpower you. Not true when the roles are reversed.[/li][li]She is a strong-willed independent woman. She didn’t come to the decision lightly. She had made her mind up. If the guy won’t accept no for an answer in those circumstances, then why would he accept ‘no’ when emotional and one to one?[/li][li]She was at university. One night she got back with friends at about 1am to find that he’d put a note under her door. This was supposed to be a girls-only dorm, but he’d got in. Having driven about 50 miles without warning her. She was so scared I had to drive over there that night.[/li][/ul]
I could give other examples, but it comes down to this:
From his point of view I’m sure that there was nothing untoward - he was just trying to ‘woo her back’. And of course he never ended up doing anything threatening. But he scared her and he scared me with his frankly unreasonable insistence to not accept ‘no’.
For the sake of all women out there and their brothers and parents too, if you’ve lost her then you have lost her. Go away.
If the woman turns out to be the kind of silly tart who’d say ‘no’ when she means ‘yes’ then that is her loss and hopefully she’ll know better next time. Other women don’t deserve to suffer for one woman not knowing her own mind.
Sorry to rant, but this one bugs me.
regards,
pan
tbea925 wrote:
Not true. You can ask her out again 3 years later. (Seriously.)