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Well I figured it would be better to let you get the ball rolling so to speak rather than for me to make an assumption about what you really meant. Though the OP is supposed to be about beliefs, sometimes it is difficult on a messageboard to discern whether someone is being completely serious or sarcastic. So explain to me what these strong social sanctions would be in lieu of being shot and beaten.
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Oh, okay, I think I understand.
And I agree–message boards are very poor conductors of vocal inflection and facial cues, so it can sometimes be difficult to figure out where someone’s coming from.
I think a social sanction can be as simple as someone–anyone–saying, “Hey, why are you using that kind of language?” I’ve been in social situations where someone says something that is not considered kosher by me and several other people (but which is prevalent enough in society that the filter between the offender’s brain and mouth don’t kick into gear), and we’re throwing furtive glances in each other’s direction, wondering who’s going to be the one to say something.
Of course, in many instances, no one says anything. This can be for any number of reasons–we don’t know how the offender will react (especially if you don’t the person, e.g., a stranger on the subway), we don’t know if other people will have our back, etc.–and it’s unfortunate, because I think that just calling a person out for his/her behavior can have an effect, at least in that moment, if not going forward.
I think that social sanctions can also be organized affairs. Take, for instance, the case of certain lyrics in hip-hop music. In the recent past, the journalist Stanley Crouch and entitities like “Essence Magazine” have taken to task artists who use minstel-like, degrading, misogyinistic, and homophobic lyrics. Or, years ago in Philadelphia, C. Delores Tucker (I think she died maybe a couple of years ago or so) began getting people together to picket retailers that sold music with objectionable lyrics. Did it amount to anything? I don’t recall right now, but perhaps it got someone to think about what they were listening to. I actually don’t know that this is a particularly effective way of doing this kind of thing (i.e., publicly opposing something can give it more prominence), but at any rate, it counts as something of a social sanction.
Ideally, though, parents would talk to their children (and, hell, maybe adults could talk to other adults) about the messages inherent in certain objectional music/actions. Or perhaps it takes something else.
When I was about ten years old, my mother, brother, and I were visiting an aunt and some my cousins, and we got to talking about something, and I, without thinking, used a phrase which was common at the time among some black people: faster than ten niggers running. Well, before I even got to the word “running,” my mother’s open hand had connected with my mouth. Message received. Loud and clear. (My mother was more of a get-in-your-face-verbally kind of mother than anything, so for her to actually strike you spoke volumes.)
Now, not that *that * was the best way of handling it, but I certainly understand her in-the-moment, visceral reaction, given that (a) she just *really * doesn’t like that word, and (b) she came of age in the Jim Crow South, and so she understood that word to be poison.
Coupled with that, though, for me, there was also a passive social sanction. When I was growing up in the 70’s and 80’s, I spent enough time with older black people (I was a freaky kid–I always preferred the company of older people to that of my own peers), especially whenever I was back home in South Carolina, and just by being around them, I got a strong sense of their dignity (despite god knows what they went through), their values, and what, for the most part, was acceptable and unacceptable behavior. And using words like “nigger” (or what would later become “niggah”) in public (or even privately) was not an acceptable behavior. Not to mention a whole list of other things that you kind of knew that you shouldn’t do.
Mind you, I also understood that being gay was not acceptable. But being gay, of course, is an entirely different creature. And thank goodness, anyway, that people’s thinking evolves over time. I just don’t believe that our thinking should evolve to the point where it becomes normalized or acceptable for blacks to toss around willy-nilly a word, the express purpose of which was to sear worthlessness or “less than” into our very souls.
I realize that I’ve rambled here (for which I apologize), but I hope this answers your question.