still in shock (long)

Today I put my cat Baldrick to sleep. He was 13 years old, and handsome as ever – all white with a gray mottled tail, green eyes and pink ears and nose.

When I got him, he was a foundling, too young to be weaned. I fed him with a bottle and kitten milk replacement formula. He was too young to be dewormed, even though samples revealed that he had three different types of intestinal parasites. Something had attacked him, too – he had bites taken out of his head and at the base of his tail. The vet didn’t think he’d make it.

We kept him alive long enough to be dewormed and tested for disease. When it turned out he was disease-free, he was finally allowed to roam outside the bedroom – he’d been quarantined for fear of infecting my other cat.

He grew up to rule the roost. He’d box with the dog, and terrorize the other cat. He always ate like it might be his last chance. He grew from a kitten that fit in the palm of my hand to a twenty-pound monster. We moved away and placed the dog with friends. A year and a half ago, my old spinster cat Violet went on to her reward after 16 years with me. Six months ago, we got a new kitten, and Baldrick, once he reluctantly concluded that the kitten was not in fact a space alien (all evidence to the contrary notwithstanding), set about teaching him his business. They wrestled together, and Baldrick never had to see the day when Wimsey grew big enough to take him down.

Baldrick loved the rough stuff – even petting had to be ferocious as far he was concerned. He loved to have his ears pulled, harder than you’d think would be comfortable. But he could come be quiet with me, too. When I had cramps, there was nothing better than my big, furry, purring heating pad.

Finally, this past week, Baldrick slowly stopped eating and grew more and more lethargic. I thought he was reacting to new food, having a bout of constipation. By yesterday, I knew he was really miserable. I took him to the vet last night, and was stunned to learn that he had a mass on his liver and fluid in his chest. The vet thought it was probably lymphoma. We decided to try him on steroids for a few days and see if he could bounce back a little. But by this morning, it was clear to me where my duty to Baldrick lay. This afternoon, I took him in for a final time. He still had a enough energy to give the vet a piece of his mind. And even as the sedation took effect, he responded when I called him by my favorite nickname for him.

Baldrick and his older sister Violet had been part of my life longer than any friend I have, longer than anyone other than my family. They saw me through a marriage, numberless boyfriends, three states, a house and three apartments. Now that Baldrick has followed Violet, I have lost a major, living connection to my past, as well as a staunch and true friend (who probably wouldn’t have waited more than 6hours to start eating me, if I had ever died in my sleep ;)).

It is said that not a sparrow falls but God knows it. I’m not fit to argue about pets’ souls or lack thereof, but I know that any God who loves me will take care of my boy, and will make sure we meet again. I hope he’s got somebody fun to wrestle with tonight.

I miss him.

Aholibah

:frowning: Poor Aholibah.

Baldrick was a lucky lucky boy to have someone care about him as much as you did. I like the name :slight_smile:

You have my deepest sympathies, Aholibah.

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As I recently shared in another thread, I had to put down my beloved Siamese after 14 years of undying catlove. It was absolutely the hardest thing I have ever done. I know your pain, Aholibah.

May you take solace in the fact that for 13 years, Baldrick’s life was a helluva lot better because of you.

Be well.

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You did good with that cat, Aholibah. Very good indeed. Thanks on behalf of all cat people.

Rob

I’m sorry, Aholibah. I lost a cat to lymphoma. It came on really fast for us, too. I was shocked when the necropsy results came back - I had no idea.

Take care, and remember what a good, full life Baldrick had with you.

You did the right thing, and try to remember the love you had for him and all the good years you had.

Thanks, everybody, for your kind words and support. It’s really helping to combat the sorrow and guilt I feel at not having been able to do anything better for him than to end his suffering. I think that’s the toughest part of loving and being responsible for another creature’s life and well-being.

Thanks again, all.

It sounds like Baldrick had a wonderful life, Aholibah. Touching post.

I am so sorry, Aholibah. I’ve lost two elderly feline friends suddenly, so I sympathize.

Just remember the kitten times. They’re always the best.

RIP, Baldrick. :frowning:

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

Losing something so close to you as a pet can be very hard. But I can only imagine that you gave him the best 13 years of life a cat could ever want.

The thing I really like about animals (cats in particular) is the concept of unconditional love. A cat doesn’t care if you yelled at your mother, or got fired, or cried during a movie. A cat will love you just the same.

Oh! :frowning: Aholibah, I’m sorry about your kitty-boy. I have a male cat that I acquired and raised in exactly the same way. He is my baby. I can’t imagine what it will be like when he gets old and passes away. I will miss my Zoe terribly!

I do believe that all kitties go to Heaven. After all, no afterlife for kitties would be happy to them without their people!