I’ve spent a lot of time reading this thread, mulling over the various opinions and theories offered. I was initially drawn into reading because I am very worried about our children – many are overweight and have a lifelong struggle with weight and accompanying diseases like diabetes ahead of them.
In a June issue Time Magazine had an excellent series on eating, weight and nutrition. The corn/government subsidy connection was addressed in a story about grain fed vs. grass fed beef. (Bottom line: cattle aren’t meant to eat corn, it causes health problems for them and for us to feed it to them … but it’s done anyway because it brings them to market faster and cheaper.)
There was also an article about the daily ritual of the shared family meal and how that, while it has largely gone by the wayside, it is making a comeback as people realize the benefits. (Shared time together, relating family stories, more family togetherness means children learn the art of conversation, problem-solving and etiquette; also teens who get into less trouble.)
A point that struck me in this last story is, experts have found that we are not, in fact, as pressed for time as we make out that we are. It just can be used as a convenient excuse. “I run, run, run all the time – when do I have time to cook?” It’s just as parents buy too quickly into the “my teenager won’t eat with me!” myth. Teens, when asked, say they would in fact like to eat a family dinner with a parent(s) more often. But it’s just easier to say, “you know teenagers!” and let them take a plate of food to their room to continue IM’ing with friends.
Well to this I say, Enough. Many people in this thread have made the point that everyone knows a sack of chips on the couch is not a healthy lifestyle. Yet the reasons people do it are myriad and complex, and attacking them is not as simple as saying “eat better, eat less, exercise more.”
I humbly submit that it is. You can order your life so that you have the time, effort and knowledge necessary to live differently than you do now.
People, in my experience, are very quick to ruefully explain how they have “no time” for the things they claim they really do want to do. But when you examine their lives, you see that they have ordered them just as they want them. There’s plenty of time to stop by the Starbucks and get your fattening latte and muffin, when it would take probably the same amount of time to eat a bowl of spoon-size shredded wheat before leaving home. People have more time than they think they do – yet they willfully insist that they’re at the mercy of their schedules and can’t possibly fit another thing into them, like shopping for reasonably healthy foods and preparing them each night.
I hesitate to offer myself as an example because I loathe how smug and sanctimonious something like this sounds. But, I feel I must. I’m the full-time working mother of three children; two are school-age and one is about to turn 2. I regularly grocery-shop, and this summer I participate in a garden co-op of a friend which has given me a weekly basket of fresh vegetables. Each night I come home, nurse the baby and prepare a dinner for five. I clean it up, organize the homework, make sure everyone is bathed and tucked in… (Since it’s summer right now I do a little weeding and watering in the garden, instead of presiding over homework.) Do some laundry, straighten up a little and go to bed.
You notice what I’m leaving out. I don’t watch television. I rarely get on the computer. My children are involved in activities which they can attend after school. We’re not every night at the ballpark (which actually would be good for most American kids; I’m not knocking organized sports). We don’t eat on the fly. We eat at home, every night.
My point is (and please excuse me if I do come off as smug – I’m trying not to) – is that one can choose how to arrange one’s life. We’re not at the mercy of our schedule – we are in charge of our own lives. Too busy to do anything but grab fast food? Think again. If someone’s not going to be happy unless plugged into television or computer for several hours a day (or whatever) if you refuse to give that up, well then you’re right, you probably have no time to purchase, prepare and serve healthy meals.
Another, and equally important point – I believe our worse natures are appealed to. Our land of plenty has provided us with more and more fast food stores with large portions sizes and it’s very, very easy to succumb to convenience foods. It’s also very easy to eat calories you don’t suspect are there. I was appalled to find out that sugar and high fructose corn syrup are the first or second ingredients in non-sugared cereals like Corn Chex, Rice Crispies and Cheerios. I have gotten to the point that I only buy the shredded wheat – it’s the only thing I can find with nothing else added! My children like it because I raised them on it. That and oatmeal blended with yogurt is our standard breakfast fare.
I’d like to fit more exercise into my life at the moment, but it’s pretty busy tending to the basics of life. I readily agree if I’d place higher priority on exercise, there are things I could drop off. I’d guess that the moment that would be housecleaning. Probably gardening. I try to walk at lunch at work.
America as a whole needs to forget the lessons learned of the 1970s and the me generation. This mindset puts desires first, tells us that we “deserve” what we merely desire. By the same token, we can’t succumb to what our children merely “want” versus what they need. And what is that? Firm parenting by adults with the strength to say “no” –1,000 times if necessary in the cereal aisle – parents who insist the teenager eat at the table, talk about her day (or at least be present when others talk about theirs). Soon enough they’ll be out on their own and can do as they please. Tell them that. For now, we eat together, we all eat the same thing, and we live our lives for one another as much as for ourselves.
Good night … and good luck.